Wrong parenting?
When I was a child/teenager, people said I'll amount to something, I shouldn't take drugs, I shouldn't do anything stupid. You can worry about women later, concentrate on school. I don't know what to do anymore, I'm fed up. My parents never taught me anything about women, how to deal with women, or relationships. Or how to deal with people in general. This saying no or prohibitions, whatever you want to call it, led to me doing so much stupid stuff that I almost failed my exams and always had arguments with my parents. And now, today, I'm 20 and have never had a date, a girlfriend, or any kind of contact with women. I even have a fear of women I find attractive. Today my parents say, "Why don't you have a girlfriend, or didn't you have one before?" Why don't you drink sometimes, or something like that. Is it because of the way you were raised?
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There are areas in life that parents can’t really “add” something.
Look, they already gave you good approaches: Do not take drugs (prima, would be a waste of money and negative for their own body/life). Don’t build shit (super, because otherwise you’ll get chances/possibilities). Focus on school (prima).
Topic Women, Handling Women or General Relations: What could your parents have taught you big?…. And even if they told you otherwise, it could happen just as well that would be “false”.
Example for “If parents give super-important advice on dealing with the other sex/ dealing with one relationship – and it goes wrong”:
My mom tried to give me some advice when dealing with men/in relationships. I was so naive at my puberty or at that time as still young adults – and that made me so much more difficult/ almost destroyed.
You may have just pretended to be a couple, your father made you feel like walking around with your mother in everyday life. And DAS is what matters. Learn how to deal with other people. Learning how a relationship works/not works.
Because there is also the negative example – where you learn “This is the crap I never want to do.”
So you rebelled against your parents someday? You wouldn’t be the only one in the world. Many growers make it sooner or later. The ones catch up in time, the others fall on their nose before they learn from it.
And your parents are now starting to ask questions about potential partners, future planning….. this is also relatively normal with parents.
I don’t know, my parents never did. This isn’t her problem because they once said you can take care of women later. Actually, you learn how to deal with women with the time that comes from when you have social contact and just talk to women without thinking or talking to your friends you learn how to get women. There are things that parents just don’t have to teach you anything. Just talk to what Passier doesn’t do, then you realize that handling will be better.
The adultery is complex. A certain negative development certainly has several causes. Education is one of them – the conclusions that you have drawn from the instructions and speeches of your parents is another cause.