Would you feel attacked by this statement?
As far as family goes, my cousin practically only has me and an aunt left. A lot has gone wrong in her life, and I can't tell you how often and how many hours we listened to her, tried to support her, and helped her out financially countless times over the years.
A few weeks ago, she was feeling bad again, and she told me on the phone that everyone who had meant anything to her had died (her parents, a former roommate). She had no one left except her boyfriend and his mother. My aunt and I were completely left out, not even mentioned.
What would you think? Would you feel attacked? How would you behave towards her in the future? Should you address the statement or retreat?
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Of course. By addressing you, she also counts you as a contact person.
I think she seems to feel a little comfortable in her fate.
I think I'm mad because I've been indulgent for so long and so often. Then the statement of her thought was bad with me.
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No, I wouldn't feel attacked, because they're their feelings and thoughts. I can't see through her eyes. Maybe you just lack more special feelings than you could afford. It would be selfish of me if I felt attacked because she didn't mention me.
That's right, she thought it out loud. We now know that we are not worth it unless she needs money.
If you're tangent, speak open, in any case! It's gonna grow in one, and then it's gonna swing up.
I'll talk to her, that was my thought.
Yeah, it's better, just believe me… It doesn't have to be pronounced as a proposition hammer, but you can formulate it in a quiet way without throwing it around with grazing ancestors. You just say that hits you.
Well, you can say that you find it disrespectful and don't want to get in touch until they apologize.
The wrong term would be attacked.
I'd say that.