Wieso wollen die Standesämter nur den Namen der Mutter wissen wenn ein Kind auf die Welt kommt?

In fact, I also find the system somewhat absurd, but a certain twisted logic is in it – one looks at the absolutely unfair current situation.

Mother and child are a unit in it. Mother and child are registered at the registry office. The father, now yes. There are two ways: if the mother is married, the husband automatically applies as a father. Point. Further information is not required. If, in advance, no one has objected to this, it is extremely difficult to change this even if the husband is not the biological producer.

If the mother is not married, there are several possibilities. Either she admits not to know the father. Or she’s giving a man as a father. He can then acknowledge fatherhood (either before or after birth) and then gives as a father – also here again: Whoever is a father is it, even if later doubts arise about it, which can even be proved. It is important that the mother has no duty to give a man as a father.

According to my knowledge, a man (except he is married to the mother, which automatically makes him a father) can also do little to become a father without the consent of the mother. She can give the father who is asked. Whether it is otherwise possible, so that a man goes off and says he is the father of the child and that must then also be entered, is not so easy. It goes, but in doubt it has to do with judgment etc.

You can speculate about the reasons. I suppose it’s about protection. Thus, no man, e.g. after a relationship with domestic violence or at worst rape, from which a child emerges, cannot easily come to the address of mother and child. On the other hand, the mother naturally allows her unloved men who would not be harmful to the development of the child to keep their neck off – which can be a shame for the child. As always, the legislature goes from a largely cure world – if both parents wanted the child, why shouldn’t you tell the others? But that’s it. All that is well meant (e.g. for protection) can be abused somehow. In any case, this is in my opinion the reason why the mothers come with in the note at the post office and the fathers only come about the paternity recognition after the father was appointed by the mother or the marriage certificate.

This part that you’re a husband automatically a father, by the way, I find quite obsolete. But good – if everyone agrees this can also be clarified before birth. Just as stupid is that children can be protected from dangerous fathers – but not from dangerous mothers. Because even if there may be more rare, there are also. I don’t know if the system comes into reform with the increasing disappearance of the classic family.