Wie würdet ihr als Mutter reagieren, wenn euer Mann eurem gemeinsamen Kind eine fette Schelle gibt, dass es wieder runter kommt?
Ist sowas ein NOGO oder muss sein.
Wir sagen er benimmt sich richtig scheiße, beleidigt die eltern und will nichts machen
Hello Jabuka88!
I assume that your child did not come to the world as a pigeon or villain. I wouldn’t beat, but think about what could have gone wrong if I, as a parent/incubator/reference point, no longer see any other way to influence.
Perhaps there is another direction in which I could develop my relationship with the child (interest, respect, mutual trust, support, border, openness….)
LG
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The problem is likely to be in the many ways of implementing it. The good intention in the next stress situation is immediately overboard 🙁
That can be, but an approach for an alternative must be given.
This can be the beginning of a realignment, yes, absolutely.
From my own experience, I can only say that there must be at least one first visit to an educational advisory body, best as a whole family. You have a mediator situation with a view from the outside.
Poverty if you don’t manage to educate him and instead you have to seize violence.
With the knowledge of today, I would force my husband to apologize to the child immediately. In addition, I would oblige him to make at least one short therapy.
If he refuses to do this, I’d split right away.
It would be interesting to see if this compulsion would lead to success.
15 hours of therapy should do something. As a woman, I can’t be his therapist. I can love him, no more. In such constellations, there is usually more in the argen.
Right <3
That’s it! Who is damaged usually uses the force for himself.
I’ve been avoiding such situations for a long time, and I don’t have them in my environment anymore.
I know no violence with the partner, but I can experience it in my life environment. It is also a matter of weighing whether I can handle more than one backpipe through my intervention or whether it makes sense to make a cut from the outside.
You wouldn’t have chosen that partner. Sure, then you’re shocked and rehearsed. I know the situation from my own experience.
I usually don’t answer out of my stomach. I would take the man who is not a racket (otherwise I would not have chosen him as a partner!) to the side, say to the child that the backpipe was not justified and both ask me to speak again about the situation in an hour. But even after four five frights, we don’t have to hit.
I always answer out of my stomach right now and my conditioning was unfortunately also pressure, punishment and consequence.
But what would you do in this concrete situation?
I understand your intention, but the way to implement it seemed to me somewhat utopian with the “force” from the situation at issue. And clearly, the problem already has a longer Enrtwick history.
I know it’s weird too. But do you think that such an upset man is accessible to lovingly appealing words?
I think we agreed that with a child who insults parents, something went wrong before.
My reaction would be very dependent on my daily form.
The child definitely needs the signal that this is absolutely wrong.
I meant what happens if you (as loving) want to force him to apologize and make a therapy.
Then he can look for a new stay.
Don’t look at me
Absolute No-Go. Violence is not a solution.
Education must be carried by both.
Discipline and consequent need not be enforced by baking pipes or clamps.
if I had a child and would happen that I would give him a backpipe first and I would say you never come back near my child no one has a right to beat a child
That’s right!
Is certainly not wrong sometimes to give a backpipe to point the child to the wrong behavior. However, do not exaggerate and do not apply regularly. Only in hardship cases.
but that’s wrong. And in D also forbidden.
There’s something in D. If the child really doesn’t enjoy education, that’s the last solution. Of course, I don’t lie down to the child, for God’s sake. But some children cannot be educated with nice words and exhortations. The speech is of rather light baking whips and also only as a last resort. Not even on the face..
you should not beat a child
I even raised children. Yes, it goes with consistent response and behavior without violence. Sleeps are a bankruptcy statement of parents, you don’t have to beautify or talk small.
But then the alienation already has a longer run, on which parents could have tried to influence, right? I don’t think the backpipe will change anything.
In fact, it can also be that children depend on other children who have enjoyed a bad education, and also accept these trains from friends/environment (school etc.) and there can also be bad behavior. Not everything is always the parents’ fault. And not every child needs a soap.
“If the child really doesn’t enjoy education”- Yeah, what do you mean, who makes the mistakes? And then to award this as an argument for physical breeding is simply stupid.
show him because of severe body injury in which the hearing of the child can be damaged.