How do I tell my mother that I don't want to go to her gynecologist?
Heyy,
I'm a bit uncomfortable with this question, but I wanted to ask how I should tell my mom that I don't want to go to her gynecologist. I have to go to the gynecologist again soon, but my mom's gynecologist is male, and I'd rather go to a woman. I'm only 14, and I'm really uncomfortable going to a man (and yes, I know it's his job, etc., but still). My mom says he's very nice and does his job perfectly, but I still don't dare.
FYI: I went to the doctor once a few months ago and I found it very unpleasant and didn't feel well at all, so I don't want to go again.
How should I tell my mother that I don't want to go to her gynecologist anymore?
My mother always says that I should feel comfortable at the gynecologist's, but she doesn't believe me when I tell her that I feel uncomfortable at her doctor's because he is so 'friendly and nice', that's my problem too.
It is really very important to me, so I hope for serious answers
Thanks in advance ^^
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Hi dear Monika:-)
First of all, you don’t have to be ashamed of your question at all. I can understand your fears and worries well, so everything is good;-)
Is it generally necessary or necessary for you to regularly become a female physician with 14 years of age? Or is that based on your mother’s wish?
For a 14-year-old girl, of course, it is not easy if she is to be gynecologically examined by a male female doctor, there can be no one to blame you and that should not be your mother. Maybe she’ll find her wives nice and nice, but that doesn’t matter if you don’t think so. And you can definitely have your own opinion with 14. You can also decide who you want to examine yourself. If you need an investigation and you prefer to do it with a doctor, then it’s your right to go to a doctor. We have a free doctor’s choice, which also applies to young people 🙂
Try to argue with your mother again. If she doesn’t want to meet you, what I’d find very bad, you just organize an appointment with a female doctor in your area. But first try to find a solution in a conversation with your mother. Maybe it works:-) I’ll definitely push you the thumbs!
I hope I could help you a little with my answer. If you have any questions or need help, you can send me a friend request at any time and send me a personal message 🙂
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Thank you so much ^^ I don’t know if it’s really necessary for me to become a female doctor, but according to my mother I already have. But I would rather talk about it privately because I don’t want it to read so many other people (I’m sending them a friendship request)
I will talk to my mother about it today 🙂
Thank you for the detailed answer ^^
May you please do, clear:-)
Tell her how it is. If you can’t build trust with him, you won’t go if you’re sick and drag your complaints.
To grow up, it is also necessary to enter for his concerns and to put them through. Make sure you don’t generally like the same people. The chemistry between you (dir and the doctor) is simply not true. Therefore, you are cramped and inhibited in the treatment. You wouldn’t imagine the doctor’s relationship.
I am still talking to her today, thank you for the answer ^^
Hey🙋🏻 ♀️
I know you’re full of it, I got it similar.
Even if it’s difficult for you, sit down with your mother and tell her what you think and feel. Your mom will listen to you and find a suitable doctor with you, even your mother was a girl who didn’t always feel comfortable somewhere. I’d be happy when my daughter speaks openly and honestly about this and if you’re not comfortable with something. Sure, your mama knows you the longest and feels more like something isn’t good, but what’s going on in your head and in your heart knows you.
I wish you a lot of strength and I think you will feel much more free after the conversation.
All the best
Thank you very much. I will talk to her again tonight and explain everything to her. I hope she understands ^ Thank you for the answer
No stress, it’s okay. And that’s what I’m telling you from woman to woman. You are her daughter and your well-being is certainly important to her. A lot of strength and courage
Very great written by you <3
Thanks for the compliment😊🌹
You’re welcome
Thank you
Just tell her you’d feel more comfortable with a woman and won’t go to her FA anymore. Actually, she should understand
I will still talk to her today, only the problem is that she is satisfied with the FA and then probably doesn’t want me to change to someone else because she probably has feared that another doctor will be worse than her ykk? But thanks
Then you have to tell your mother that you don’t want to go to a male gynecologist because you don’t feel comfortable and can’t relax at all.
Joo, thank you, I’ll talk to her right now because she’s right home
Good luck and don’t let it go. 😉
Just tell her how you explained in detail here that you feel uncomfortable with a man as a female doctor. It does not have anything to do with her or with the doctor, only with your emotions and no one can do anything for his feelings.
Thank you.
Just tell her this and name a FÄ to whom you want. Maybe you can talk to friends?
Everyone should decide for themselves what (special) doctor you want to go to – if there are alternatives of course.
I’ll talk to my best friend. Thank you
Dear Monika,
so good that you take your “no” true and serious. It’s super important that you trust your feeling and don’t force you to go to the doctor again. Not “to love a mother.” Your mother isn’t in you, she doesn’t know how you feel, who or what feels good for you or is sympathetic to you. You can only decide for yourself. It would be very presumptuous if your mother wouldn’t respect it. But I guess if it’s really important to her that you feel comfortable and you tell her you’d feel more comfortable with a woman, she’ll accept that. If not, it doesn’t matter. It’s not your mother’s concern. Make an appointment with a female doctor.
Thank you ^^I will talk to her tonight and explain everything better to her
Just tell her you’re going to a doctor. Don’t want…
Check out what good reviews have and call there….First dates can take longer.
It’s nice that your mother feels comfortable with her doctor, but you’re another person and don’t feel comfortable.
There is no need to discuss it. It’s just that.
Thank you ^^ I even found 3 good female doctors with good reviews
Just be open and honest about your feelings, I’m not a woman, but I can very well imagine that the woman doctor needs to have a healthy trust base to feel at least halfway comfortable.
Yeah, I’ll talk to her again today, thank you.
I’d just say that right away, so I’m sure she’ll understand.
Joo I’ll talk to her tonight, thank you
Just say that’s okay. However, it is very difficult to find a new one when you already have one.
Personally, I’d rather be with a man, I feel them more sensitive. At women I had the impression… they don’t stand up like I survived.
I’ve already found 3 women’s doctors near me. All 3 have received good reviews ^^ and thanks for the answer
but this does not mean that they also receive patients.
destined.
Yes I’m just looking, maybe my mother will help me when I talk to her
Just tell her what you wrote here. But why do they have to take 14 to the female doctor? I was there for the first time with 20
I’ve got problems and I have to go to the female doctor, but I don’t want to talk more about it because it can read a lot of people and I’m uncomfortable.
Just straight. Then she understands it most quickly.
I’m talking to her again tonight, but she’s happy with the doctor, which is why she probably doesn’t want me to change, but I’m still trying, I have to be happy and feel comfortable.
Thank you
In the end, it is unpleasant to you, regardless of its competence. That should be enough explanation for your mother.
I don’t think your mother has a problem with a change to a doctor if you explain to her how you wrote it to us.
Only courage, it will be!🍀
Thank you, I will talk to her again today and hope she understands ^^
I’m sure she understands that.
Me too!