What do you think about that?
Hello,
The mother went to the gynecologist to get a prescription for the pill. When she returned, she told her 14-year-old daughter that she had scheduled an appointment for her and that she now had to sit in the infamous examination chair.
The daughter is really pissed off and says that she doesn't have any problems or a boyfriend and doesn't even think about or want sex.
The mother argues that they should check whether everything has developed correctly, that she should get used to these examinations and that it is just like a preventative visit to the dentist.
This apparently doesn't happen so rarely with others either.
See also: What happens at the gynecologist's? – Cool! Magazine and Fear of the gynecologist – Cool! Magazine
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If I were the 14-year-old, I wouldn’t have gone or had physical resistance. Simple from principle. Because you’re not going around like that. Self-determination is a higher good than health, insofar as the “child” understands what it is about and can grasp the cosequences of its action/non-trade.
Basically, the German state is sometimes like this mother. At least in terms of vaccination in children. Wrong priorities, you have to adjust the basic law a bit. This is why something like e.g. a corona dictatorship possible.
Hi.
I also find it, like many others, kind of out of the mother.
She might be right about the arguments, but she was still too fast with her decision.
I volunteered at the beginning of the month with my mother (bin 13) that I would like to see a woman doctor because of badly severe pain, she accepted this and did not make a decision for me before, and I am very grateful for it.
I think it’s great if more mothers were like that, but that’s just my opinion.
Greetings and I hope I could help something
Greetings and a nice evening,
Reader’s note
That the mother of the daughter recommends it or talks to her about it, I think it’s okay.
I don’t think it’s good to make an appointment for the daughter. A little overcrowded. This should be done by the daughter himself and decide when and especially what doctor.
Parents have to learn to accept that their children are slowly becoming self-employed and are primarily independent individuals.
Yes is right and important.
The mother’s argument is correct.
I don’t think you’re over-taken.
And the “famously intimidated” chair unnecessarily overdramatized.
The daughter is 14 and can tell the doctor what she wants – if she doesn’t want on the chair, that’s her good right. The doctor can also ask her questions and does not have to do any physical examination if she does not want to.
If she has no health problems, then an examination at age is not necessary.
By the way, there are doctors and, before all, also doctors who offer hours of youth. They can deal with the fears and the very great shame of very young women as a rule sensitively.
Normal.
However, no examination is carried out at the first visit to the doctor. first, the relationship of trust is built up and maintained. You are often only consulted at the second date.
Nevertheless, the mother is just right. Fairer it would probably be to prepare the girl first and explain it before putting her before completed facts.
No good female doctor is investigating a 14 year old if she doesn’t want to. Unless she has problems that make an investigation necessary.