Why do I get angry when someone wants to talk to me about my feelings?
Hello, I'm 14 years old and I'm female. I just had a conversation with my mother. It was evening and I was tired and kind of empty. We were in my room when she asked me something. It was a question that made me quite sad. She'd asked me that question many times before, but I always avoided the conversation. I used to be introverted and "shy" as some people called it. I was never really good at talking about feelings, whether my own or someone else's. After a while, I couldn't do that anymore; I avoided such conversations. Then the anger set in. As soon as someone asked me something about it, I got annoyed and angry. Today, too, I was immediately angry. I'd love to talk to someone about my problems, but I just can't bring myself to do it. Once that person is gone and I'm all alone, all the sadness comes and the anger disappears.
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The rage is only about the feeling of grief to protect you from this grief in the presence of the other person.
There must have been something that makes you insecure to show your sadness.
Think, how did your references or friends react to your sadness? Was that insane? Have you been laughing?
There must be a reason why you always go away from confrontation with your sadness.
The rage protects you. The mourning is the feeling it is.
Let her go. If you’re alone, it’s safer for you. Maybe you can gradually make it to others to make an indication that you are really sad.
It’s not easy for everyone to talk about feelings.
Have you ever tried writing diary or writing letters and thoughts in it?
Everyone has feelings. Some people don’t know how to name them. If it helps you, I can send you a list where feelings are structured.
If you become aware of the feelings yourself, you can also tell others about it.
By the way, sadness and anger are also precepts for feelings. You even mentioned it.
Could you please send me the list. Thank you.
Just like that. Try to listen to the person and stay calm.Just don’t tell the person too much and keep a cool head, then you don’t freak out.