I, f14, love small children and am now wondering at what age one should become a mother.
I am currently babysitting and spend most of my free time with children at kindergarten or in the church community.
I just enjoy traveling with children.
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Children are wonderful. The problem is that so far, you've only looked after them part-time. Babysitting is exciting for the children. They're usually quite sweet. The same is true in kindergarten or church. You experience children in their free time.
You never see them when they're tired in the morning and have to get up; you never see them when they're dawdling and therefore late everywhere; you never experience tantrums because they don't feel like doing their math homework or have to go to bed. You don't have to get up five times a night because your child needs to pee/is thirsty/it's too light or too dark/because they're scared/because they can't sleep/because they've just remembered they have to pick something up tomorrow and they absolutely have to tell you at 2 a.m.
You don't have to restrict yourself in your life for the next few years either. I'd probably rather sit comfortably on the couch in a warm house with a cup of tea and a book in hand than go sledding with my child in -15 degrees. But because of the child, you give up a lot of things that used to be very important to you. Sure, you do it gladly, but every now and then you think back a bit wistfully to the time when you didn't have to constantly consider someone else.
Children are an enrichment to one's life – but also exhausting and a life's work.
Therefore, everything should be in place before you seriously consider having children. And whether that will happen when you're 20 or 40 – no one can say for you.
… dann, wenn Dir danach ist. Noch hast Du wohl ein paar Jahre vor Dir, um Elternteil zu werden. Aber für eigene Kinder braucht man viel Kraft, Energie und Geduld. Du musst Verantwortung tragen. Nein – die trägst Du im Moment nicht. Gut, dass Du Dich jetzt schon mit Kindern umgibst. Aber man wird Dir keine 100%tige Verantwortung geben. Insofern musst Du zu wissen bekommen, dass ein eigenes Kind viel mehr Arbeit bedeutet als was Du jetzt leistest. Ja – Kinder sind Arbeit. Nicht nur Vergnügen.
Wenn Du älter wirst, wirst Du irgendwann wissen, dass es jetzt soweit ist. Bis dahin konzentrier Dich auf die Schule, auf Dein Privatleben und bald auf Dein Arbeitsleben.
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There is a huge difference between "having fun with other people's children" and "being responsible for caring for/nurturing/raising a child around the clock for many years."
It's like "yes, I like to cook pasta every now and then" and "I work in a commercial kitchen".
“When” you “should” have children is very individual.
I would say:
Babysitting is a great approach. Not only do you experience happy, healthy, cute, and fragrant children… but you also get to experience "the other side" (even if only in passing).
Being constantly responsible can be quite exhausting in the long run. And since every child is different, not every child is equally quick/smart/easy to entertain/independent/healthy, etc.
I mean, just look around your own class… or your school in general. All your classmates are different.
And it’s the same with your own child.
The stupidest thing you can do is have a child before you've finished your training. The best thing you can do is have a child when you're already somewhat established in your job.
For example, if you haven't achieved anything yet and then have a child, your entire life can become a struggle. Going to college with a child requires a strong, supportive family.
Keep in mind that having a child costs money. While you can feed a child with a basic income, there will always be a shortage.
You have two tasks ahead of you: life planning and family planning. At 14, you can start slowly; I did that at that age, too, and I stuck to it. Make a plan for when you want to achieve something. That's actually a pretty good way to go.
My life and family planning back then, when I was 14, was: learn a trade, move out, find a relationship, my partner is welcome to have children, but I don't want to have any children of my own. Today I'm in my mid-40s; I learned my trade and finished at 24. I moved out and found a partner, and he had a daughter from his first marriage, so I was spared that. I'm still with my children, though, because I'm a kindergarten teacher by profession. I'm doing very well; I've achieved everything I planned.
Hello!
That time will come, when you become a mother. Before that, however, you need to find a good husband who truly loves you and doesn't end up in one of those 'fake relationships' where you break up after two months.
I would also like to emphasize that children are not things. If you have a child later, you should be able to devote a lot of attention and time to the child. Therefore, it would be sensible and logical to first finish school (pass your Abitur) and find a job.
Otherwise, I wish you lots of fun and enjoyment in life! Cherish your childhood, because adulthood isn't as easy as you might think!)))
Best regards
MrOsmo
Well, you don't really need a husband. Not even a man, just his sperm. 😉
It's good and important for a child to grow up with a good father. Having two parents provides inner stability. One should also consider the child's well-being.
Theoretisch stimmt das 😆
https://www.lsvd.de/de/ct/817-Gleichgeschlechtliche-Eltern-Studien-ueber-Kinder-in-Regenbogenfamilien
No, that's adult thinking and completely irrelevant for children.
For example, I have a friend who, as a single mother, underwent artificial insemination and now has two wonderful boys. They don't miss their dads.
And our lesbian neighbors' children don't care either.
Dies könnte jedoch für das Kind schwierig sein. Es könnte sich etwas allein fühlen, wenn es keinen Vater oder keine Mutter hat. Außerdem könnte es Neid gegenüber anderen Kindern empfinden, die zwei vollständige Elternteile haben, und dieser nicht.
Das ist doch schön längst überholt. Es macht vieles einfacher, wenn man zu zweit ist… definitiv. Aber es ist kaum ein Unterschied, ob zwei Frauen, zwei Männer oder Mann und Frau ein Kind groß ziehen.
You can become a mother if you want to. I think it's good to become a mother early. I had my first child at 13.
Echt?
Ja echt
I was pregnant for the first time at 20, and after a miscarriage, I became a mother to our first longed-for child at 21.
I am now 35 and have never regretted becoming a mother at a young age.
However, at that age, I was already well established in life. I'd finished my education, worked for a few years, and was married to the man of my dreams (I still am)… the conditions were right. Otherwise, I wouldn't have done it.
You should have children when you are ready for it and think that a child is something beautiful that you want to raise
… und kann!
Dass auch sehr wichtig
vernünftig ist es frühestens nach abgeschlossener Ausbildung plus ein paar Jahren Berufserfahrung