What to do as a new father?
Hello🙋♂️
I'm still a little bit in shock. A "friend" called me yesterday and told me she was 6 months pregnant. I'm the only person she had sex with. Does she have twins?
So but this is her problem, I can't have a relationship with her and she doesn't want this either, but I don't want to be a bad father. So I don't know what to do or I have to think I'm a little crazy since these
How can I help her? What will your reaction be if she says this?
Should I go to Spain? Should I continue here? She's coming to me in Germany? Should I not continue my studies? I'm very confused. I need advice on what I can do now.
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The best way to ask for a paternity test!!!! You have to do that, definitely.!!! You’re not a couple where you can rely on them.
Otherwise, you have to inquire in Spain what PFLIGHTS you have as a father.
A couple relationship – sorry – that won’t happen. You have no feelings for them and vice versa. You have to worry yourself and ask yourself what you need according to Spanish law and what you WILLST. If you want more than law.
If you rather reject the role as a father, you have to wait to see what the lady’s demands are for you.
That’s not a question we can answer.
Only so much: in short form nix join or go to Spain or get them to you. It doesn’t work. And paternity test. And nicely brav continue to study so that you later have a job and then can strongly support financially because you need or want it….
But my concern is that in 2 months this child will be coming to my studies she will be going for many years I have no money I can give to her I must find another way to do that
The concern is justified. I can't say anything more about it.
as a medical student you should know “more”!
even before you have sex!
Ok👍
First and foremost, finish your studies so you have a foundation on which to build.
Think positive and be happy about the child, don't stress.
But if you're not sure if you're actually the father, take a paternity test. If you are the biological father, take responsibility for the child and do everything you can to bond with your child and be a good father.
Whether you bring your girlfriend to Germany or not, and whether you can live together or not, is a decision you both have to make.
If you're the biological father, you have to pay monthly child support in Germany. I don't know how it works in other countries. If you're still a student, I assume you can't pay anything.
Try to see your child as often as possible, visit them, and spend time together. It's worth it.
Thank you🙏 I will have many attempts time with these children (my children I think😅)
Fatherhood Test and if you are the father, pay maintenance and be there for the children.
I would ask for a fatherhood test first and then see if you are actually the father. she can tell a lot when the day is long.
should you be the father will be recognized the fatherhood and you will be subject to. you have come too low, you are not efficient and cannot pay.
But I want to find a way it is my children I can help her
Do you have a different tip solution for me I can help her now assist in this pregnancy cause I believe a bit to her she is my children
There will be more in your life than a situation where you have to stand for your actions.
First, I think it’s amazing that as a medical student you didn’t even consider preventing. As a man with capote. Wouldn’t have been easier, would it?
Or you hoped and felt so that you felt drawn towards each other. Then the witness of a child was probably an unconscious plan?
In general, I would ask you to deal more with your person and personality and become the good person you want to be. It seems to be missing. (Your questions here on GF looked very I was referring to …)
In addition… well, if it is your child, take it too! For a child, nix is more stupid than having the impression of not being wanted by a parent.
I don’t know what that means to your relationship with the woman and what you two have in common except the child. You have to find out. At least you don’t have to be together forcibly, even if you take care of the child together. This also means that you share periods of supervision so that you can pursue your studies as well as your studies/work.
As a student, you will hardly have money for maintenance payments, so nothing will be required from you. As soon as you have money, it is a duty of honour as a father to come up for his child.
P. S.: Oh, yes, I don’t know how you two stand with each other. I don’t think a mother will be looking for a meanless father. So I would suspect that the child is already from you. If this is unclear, there are paternity tests – please do only with the consent of the mother!
whether you want or not: you are the father!
and then you are the father!
The kids can’t do it!
Recognize and pay for paternity and for the children and mother.
Well, you can do a genetic test to see if you really are the father.
You should ask if you’re responsible for sex. Do you always use condoms correctly, do you consistently prevent yourself? As a woman, one does not become groundless and usually not pregnant the first time. You’re responsible for your doing, including sex.
If you are the father: 1) move to the mother and take care of your children or 2) do not move to the mother and pay the financial support for your children.
Good
Of course, you should wait until the children are born and definitely continue your studies
You should also stay in cot with the mother to know how she imagined what should happen soon, but surely still make a paternity test to make sure you are also the father
But I am also quite confident that if you are the father that you will get the role as a father quite well
Maybe not be quite so sexually on the go! Keep us on the run I hope I will be a godfather
For the first time, make a test if you are the biological father. Then you can still think about how you want to or could shape your life together.
Wait until the twins are here and then make a test whether you are really the father. If this is positive, you have to pay maintenance.
No lo se, pero primero tengo que creerlo 🤷y ella tiene 23
😁
Si lo hare hermano
What you shouldn’t do is a paternity recognition. Who knows if that’s true what they’re telling you.
(deepl.com: Lo que nunca debes hacer es reconocer la paternidad en la oficina de asistencia a menores o en el juzgado. Quién sabe si lo que te dice es verdad.)
que tengo que hacer entonces?
Debe solicitar una prueba de paternidad después de que nazcan los gemlos.
Si los gemelos son realmente suyos, usted es responsable del mantenimiento.
esperar a que nazcan y solo reconocer la paternidad cuando esté comprobado que eres el papa
My suggestion was that you let your contributions translate to deepl.com (like I, I don’t speak Spanish). Otherwise we don’t understand them completely.
Mi sugerencia era sólo que traduzcas tus posts en deepl.com (como yo, que no hablo español). Si no, no los entenderemos del todo.
Si, a diferencia de Espana, Berlin tambien es muy extrano
Munich
No me gusta nada Berlin
Berlin Berlin
De donde eres?
Si, yo tambien, son muy simpáticos
Me gusto mucho la lengua espanol y la gente.
gracias, lo tengo comprendido 🙏
Muchas gracias🙏
You’re not doing GAR for the first time. After the birth of the children, there’s a paternity test. These are three months in which you can rest assured of how you want to deal with what kind of father you want to be – if you are the father.
Look at Dusseldorf’s table… full fat, alda!
What this table means to me?😅
There’s how much money you have to pay to the mother as an aliment every month for 1 child.
I don’t know they’ll make problem to me but I don’t believe many 😅
If she’s a Spaniard, the laws of Spain apply…but I think that Spanish justice is more ruthless than German justice…
…I mean…inclusively, adultery or illegitimate sexual intercourse was punished by 1985…and with the Guardia Civil no one wanted to have anything to do…
…that changed with the death of Franco…but rabiat is still in Spain’s justice.
Ah si this she can be the same I am in Germany her in Spain?