Wer macht sich (für die Kinder) mehr fertig – Mütter oder Väter? Meiner Erfahrung nach Mütter, wie steht ihr dazu?

This is individual. I know mothers who neglect their children as well as (partially single parents) fathers who do absolutely everything for their children and put themselves in the back. It also depends on how “ready” parents are, how “kinderlieb” they are, whether they were desired children or “injuries” and so on. You can’t generalize it.

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It was completely different with me, because I grew up with my grandpa. You can tell him a lot, he was a good, but also arguable person, and he caused many problems due to his partly unusual behavior, as he has also been popular everywhere – I owe him a lot to work up as a young adult. But he has always done everything for me what he could do and he would have given up his last shirt, I must break for him every lance and do that with heart – and he must, according to my uncles and aunts, have been a good, calm and reliable father who always had all in sight. My mother is not so good to speak to him, but this is a family thing; she must have disappointed him, too, what he has never reconciled and what he has never spoken to anyone. There were only letters in his estate showing how deep he was hurt.