What if I realize that I am a person I don't want to be?
Hello,
My husband is most likely leaving me for a variety of reasons. He says, first and foremost, that we're just not a good fit, that we lack humanity and empathy. I've played him on a few times, left when he was having a hard time, and ignored him when he was unwell. I even cheated on him once (yes, that was five years ago. I was physically intimate with another man, but not sexually—I confessed to him about a week later), and there have been many other unpleasant things going on because of our families. He doesn't particularly like my family, especially my mother, whom he says is out of touch with the world, unsympathetic, and disrespectful. And I get a lot of my difficult behavior from her. In short, I'm desperate if everything he says is really true. So, yes, it's true. But I don't want to believe it. I have "explanations" for many things, such as why I reacted coldly or simply went on vacation with my mother more or less overnight (that was after half a year of being together; it's our seventh year now) without properly informing him. (I wouldn't do that anymore, but he says I haven't undergone any major internal change, haven't really changed.)
I don't know how I can pass on my life if it's as he says, and I don't even really see it.
He also says I simply respect whoever suits me, and that you can't have everything in life. I'm writing all this now, and maybe it's just another unconscious manipulation on my part to get sympathy. No, really, I don't get what's going on anymore.
Does anyone know of similar situations?
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You betrayed him and left him. Do you wonder he wants to go? A relationship must be fully trusted, otherwise it is likely (does not have to, but often ) in the fractures. How can he trust you? You can work on the qualities you don’t like yourself. You have to take back and watch what you’re doing. I don’t know if you can “save” this relationship.
Yeah, that’s true..I thought it’d be late..I’d never do that again.
His trust is broken, and that’s never gonna happen again. This isn’t a year. You have to talk to him if you still want the relationship.
It never heals again and we no longer heals. The final death of a relationship and love that was once between two people
Yes, terrible. I can give up everything. As I said, I had no s* with this man. He did the same after years ago. Our relationship was very close at that time. I thought it was over. The man of that time disgusted me more than others. You can’t understand that. Sure, I regret it enormously.
You seem to suffer from a serious personality disorder. The only option is to subject you to long-term psychotherapy so that you can get your negative behavioral patterns somehow improved.
I understand your husband. Unfortunately, it’s unbearable to being with women like you. You betrayed him what the worst is that you can do to another human soul. Fighting is mental and psychological murder. I hope you know