What is your opinion on this behavior?

I'm dating someone, and somehow we never have deep conversations. He always says I can talk about anything I want and I can ask him anything I want, but when he starts conversations, the topics are always superficial, and I usually get the feeling he's not comfortable with deep things. He never initiates deep conversations and only asks superficial questions.

Once, we had a slightly deeper conversation in which we had different views, and we were discussing this matter. At some point, he just got up and left. If I'd known, I would have ended the conversation early, but he left suddenly. I wasn't expecting it because we hadn't been arguing. Afterward, he wrote that he wasn't comfortable with this sort of thing, and that he had his opinion and I had my opinion, and that we should just leave it at that.

When I brought up another profound topic two weeks later, he did say a few things about it, but when I responded, he told me to drop it and that he wouldn't say anything more about the topic, that I was totally exaggerating and overthinking things. To be honest, I had criticized him a bit on this one, but without being offensive, just matter-of-fact. He also said ironically, "Thanks for saying that."

I think I'm also difficult at times because I like to talk/discuss topics, but I've never experienced someone blocking everything out as quickly as he does.

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ChrisGE1267
1 year ago

I feel that chemistry is not true with you…

Lucynchen
1 year ago

Depends on what you understand under “deeply” and how good and long you already know each other. I don’t talk about very private things if I don’t know anyone.

DeernVomDienst
1 year ago

Define deep green…

Maybe you have come too close to him in your conversations or with your questions. You might have been too direct to research?

If you’ve met his twisted point or stepped into the fat bowl in a targeted manner, you mustn’t be surprised.

How long have you been dating him?

Perhaps he has something different in mind than profound conversations (?)