Why doesn't my opinion count?
Hello, my dears,
I'm 29 years old, female, and recently visited my family. We started talking about eating kale and how to prepare it. I explained that I always coarsely chop kale, and my grandma said it doesn't taste good that way and that it should be very fine. But just because she doesn't like coarsely chopped kale, surely it's possible that other people like it that way?
I then told her that I like it coarse and that it tastes good to me and my grandmother and mother both said that it is wrong and that it doesn't taste good, but doesn't everyone have a different opinion about whether something tastes good or not?
We then briefly talked about vegetable ovens, and my grandma said that you have to peel the zucchini because it doesn't taste good if you leave it on. I then said that I always leave the skin on, 1. because of the vitamins and 2. because I like it. My grandma then said that you shouldn't do that and that the skin has to be removed. My grandma and my mother then scolded me because I always speak out against it.
…but I was just stating my opinion? And just because my grandma doesn't like something doesn't automatically mean everyone else doesn't either, does it? She thinks everyone who leaves the skin on a zucchini is doing it wrong, and that this only happens with young women these days because women in today's generation are getting lazier and too lazy to take the skin off. She simply can't grasp that it's a matter of taste and that there are people who like it with the skin on.
But if my older brother expresses his opinion, then it is heard and accepted and things are done the way he wants them to be done, but why is he allowed to express his opinion and I am not?
I also told my grandma that I like chicken liver, and she said, no, chicken liver doesn't taste good, if you want to eat live, then it has to be pork liver… but everyone has different tastes, and just because she doesn't like chicken liver, doesn't that mean I shouldn't like it either? And they complain that I'm always talking against it, but I was just stating my opinion.
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Taste can be denied, this is not a new knowledge. But this is not the point.
You want to be seen and accepted as your brother. Instead, you’re going to be able to devalue.
He is part of growing to realize that you don’t need the consent of your family members. You prepare your food so that it tastes you. There is no right or wrong here.
Take care of people who like you as you are and who are happy when you cook them. This is no longer self-evident today.
Happy for you,
Giwalato
I can only give you right – tastes are different. I like to eat green cabbages and have never eaten a peeled zucchini in my life. I’ve never seen this before in a restaurant or canteen, the bowl is still there.
Do you think my grandma might be a little narcistic and therefore has little empathy and therefore she cannot understand that someone likes something she doesn’t like? Because she thinks everyone feels like her.
I’d rather say the rightful behavior. Narcissism is much more extreme.
Older people with whom I often have to do especially parents and grandparents often know everything better so I limit it to the most necessary. I eat, for example, potato with bowls and likes sweets always crisp and not boiled.. The meat medium rar.
I always say I cook today… and everyone likes it differently.
But apparently no one has claimed that you can’t eat as much as you want. They just said that they can’t taste it and they can’t understand that it tastes so much for others. Nobody tells you how to eat. Find something too much to interpret now. You have other tastes. End of the discussion?
And another tip by the way, the word “tut” in the entire context you should remove from your language use. I don’t mean that bad now, but people who talk like that seem stupid. If you argue like that, you can’t be taken seriously. It’s not mean evil now.
No, they didn’t just say that it doesn’t taste so much… they also said it’s wrong as I do it and you don’t make it so and that it doesn’t taste…. but when I say that I like to do it then they still say that it doesn’t taste so much and it’s wrong and then that I’m just talking about it, even though I just said that it’s me. And I can’t just say if something generally tastes or not because everyone has a different taste… what kind of food is someone else can find totally disgusting….. and that just doesn’t understand my grandma because she thinks that all are the same as her.
I can only say you don’t have to talk to people like that. Leave it. I have no contact with my family
And on the subject with the word does, I know I myself do not use this word. I just used it here because my grandma and my mother always talk like you are here to demonstrate it. But still thanks for the tip. LG
Okay in focus, ignoring old people are stubborn, that’s because they’re their preferences.
B The word does is a normal verb that is not put behind another verb, verbs are always declining.
I go shopping, you go shopping, you go shopping, you go shopping, you go shopping, you go shopping. Presence.
Nowhere to do
I do something yes
But verbs are declining.
Preterior; I went shopping, you went shopping, he, she, it went shopping, you went shopping, we went shopping, they bought.