Move out of home or go to the youth welfare office or no, I need help please?
Hey, I come from a Muslim family but my mum is German but she has also been a Muslim for a long time. She has been separated from my father for three years. We all live alone. My sister lives with her and I (19) and my brother (15) live with my father. I am training to be a HOFA in a hotel.
My dad complains a lot, controls a lot, wants everything he wants.. sometimes he's not allowed to sleep in my room, has to sleep next to him and my brother.. always says that when my brother does something bad it's because of me! Whenever I want to go out he always complains! If I want to go to my grandma he acts like a monkey, he's always angry because sometimes I don't clean at home even though I do, but sometimes I come home from work late and am exhausted, etc.
I can't do it anymore, I'm no longer a child, I respect my religion, but the religion of being a Muslim isn't like that of some of our men! I just want peace, I tried to tell him that I want to live with my mum, my brother too, he said my mum has German thoughts, she's not like us, you'll only be ruined with her, and he said to go to the youth welfare office, but not my mum, even though he doesn't want that either!!
My parents are sometimes in a good mood together, sometimes not. The thing is, my mum sees that I'm 19 and can already do a lot of things. It's not like that with Arabic children. Even when the child turns 18 or 30, the parents will still say something. My mum wants me to be free. I do everything with her and I'm happy with her. I just want to live with her but I've given up hope that I'll be able to live with her because of my dad. Please help me. I was also told that if my brother and I get together, we can tell the youth welfare office that we don't want to be with our father anymore. We'll get out of here, but I don't want to have so many problems. Should I go to the youth welfare office or fight to move in with my mum?
I just didn't know what to do but I googled and I hope I find help
Thank you all in advance ❤️
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I am very sorry that you have to live like this and are torn inside!!!
What does your mother say to all this? Would they take you? If so, move to her!
Your father is as educated as he is and gives himself. The men are in charge, but there are other families here who live west and educate their children.
Whether the Youth Office can help, you know when you go and sign everything. You should do that so that you are aware of how you can act.
I know couples who harmonize with each other wonderfully, although they have different religions and education.
Your father doesn’t deserve you. You three have to hold together and send him to Nirvanna. He’s evil with stupid views. Don’t say anything and fight for your freedom. Take your brother, your mom and go to the youth office together. Let him go and leave him alone with his anger.