Cheated on by my wife! How do I tell our child?
We've been married for five years and already have one child (3). Last week, she was away on business, so I took care of our child. When I picked her up from school on Thursday, she told me that the other father was already there. I asked who she was referring to and learned that my wife was apparently keeping a secret. The "other father" was supposedly just her best friend, who otherwise had nothing to do with me or my child. I took my child to my relatives' house and visited my wife in a hotel. When she opened the door to me in her bathrobe, my suspicions seemed to be confirmed, but she denied all accusations. I wanted to know exactly what was going on and followed her unnoticed that same evening. When she got into her best friend's car, they drove to a secluded parking lot in the woods and were visibly shocked when I caught her in the act. It's already clear that I'll kick her out of my house if she comes back. However, I'm worried about my child.
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Maybe you should process the events first. You probably have negative feelings about your wife. You shouldn’t transfer that to your child.
Take care of your wife for the first time. Where does she go? Does she stay with her affaire or is it over? What role would your new partner then take? Is there a chance to save the relationship? What does that mean for your son? Matter things, Etc…
Your SOhn will have many questions, you should be able to give him answers to demonstrate that everything will be good and there is a plan. Show him you’re not insecure. He remembers that and is reflected in him.
Then you tell him that Mom will love someone else and go to him. It sounds like he’s young. That’s why you should pack this theme in cotton.
Don’t tell him why your relationship is over and try to formulate it positively.
Example:
But, as I said, first of all, explain everything important to your wife before you bring your son into the fight.
Your child will understand the time, a relationship that is no longer burdened in the long term, because children have fine antennas for the vibrations between parents.
With the avoidance, it is often difficult if you have common property and also with the woman for the right of residence.
Then you will have to leave them to the house/apartment if they are in the land register/apartment contract and/or reported.
Talk to her and find a solution where your child is least suffering. That’s what it’s gonna be through the separation.
You don’t have to tell your child that your wife betrayed you. Mom and dad don’t fit together anymore.
If your wife is in the house’s purchase or rental contract, you can’t just throw it out.
Not natural! You can’t burden such a small child with it. That would be completely irresponsible.
What’s that supposed to help? The child has nothing to do with your relationship problems.
Not at all.
This is one thing between you and your wife. You should talk to her and draw the necessary consequences.
Depending on the domestic situation and property conditions, a possible throwaway is excluded.
Of course you don’t say that child!
You talk to your wife and tell her you’re gonna be separated and she needs to find her own apartment. Then you talk to the child that the parents are separated and Mom lives somewhere else. In the best case, you can tell the child how you think it is when he is with whom.
That’s it. The child does not have to know any reasons. Depending on age, the same may think and otherwise your wife is in duty to tell the child the truth. You don’t agree, and you shouldn’t discuss your child’s mother – not even before your own child. You two stay a couple of parents for a lifetime.
Always the same….why are you going outside….but good.Explain to your child, of course(but not against the mother) that you can no longer be together,because you don’t understand.With 5 too early to reveal true,but also don’t lie completely.I’m sorry for you.Hold the head!Zorn doesn’t bring anything.
Your child isn’t doing this first. Not at all age. If you divide or fight a lot, you can talk to the child and tell him that this is not because of the child. Everything else would be to put your problems on the back of the child. What’s NOT FALLS ok would give the child the feeling that Mommy is guilty or evil. This is a no go. because the child will have the lasting feeling to decide between the mother and the father. You’ll hurt the child much more than to wait until it’s 16 and then explain it to him completely.
Neutral is the magic word here. As long as you have the need to put what the mother did as “bad” in front of the child, you shouldn’t say anything.
And if you separate yourselves, you sit down with the child and declare him. That you separate. And not because she went strange.
Go to your lawyer for custody, it’s better for you to prove she cheated on you.
I really hope for you that no other man raises your child.
In D, there’s no debt assignments when you separate and toddlers stay with the mother, even if she turned to another man.
Oh, a 3 j. Child goes to school *staun*….I don’t believe a word,sorry. And even if that’s what happened x-mal heutzutags and has reasons. Where could they be? You can’t explain this to a three-year-old.