Hi, I'm 18 years old. I've lost quite a bit of weight. I weigh 42 kg and am 1.74 m tall.
Lately, I've been constantly comparing myself to my mother. She suffers from severe depression. She weighs 52 kg, is 1.68 m tall, and is 60 years old.
I'm so scared of eating more or weighing more than her.
She doesn't cook herself at all.
Is it important to you to know how much your family eats and weighs?
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No, it’s not important to see what my family eats. I’m busy with more important things. Comparing with others leads to dissatisfaction.
Your BMI is under 14 and anorctic. I’d rather pay attention to your mother who’s actually in normal weight, even though you say below that she’d only take 800kcal.
You should look for professional help because your weight is dangerously low.
No I don’t know any other family member what it weighs or feeds and drinks daily.
I’m also piepegal and the others too. Only if we just cook together or eat we talk about it, but only because we want to find out who prepares what and what you just have appetite. Then it’s about tasty or not and whether it’s healthy or not?
No, but my mother always compared me with my cousin, and she presented me as perfect what she really is not.
It never tasted me what my mother says 💀
This may sound a little weird now, but I didn’t like my family that much. So I thought a lot more: “How can you be like that?” This affects both body weight and behavior. I am still happy not to have to hug my sister at greeting or passing, even if it is not gentlemanlike.
I really like my family.
I’m counting my mother’s calories, it’s often only 800.
No, I don’t care.
And no, you’ve not been comparing yourself only recently, but for about two years. How do I know? Because your questions are SO clear that you can also ask them anonymously, you can still recognize yourself.
By the way: 6 months ago your mother was 58. And you had three more kilos.
That’s why the account is very good… it helps at least keep the story unified and thus contributes to credibility.
My tip for you still remains the same: Take off and lead your own life. Without the permanent presence of mother and sister.
She turns anonymous, just because she doesn’t want to hear comments about her profile! What do you think? I can’t.
I think that I gave her the same helpful and empathic advice for a few months until I realized that they don’t care about her. She asks the questions about 120 times and beats every helpful advice in the wind to be able to whistle only further.
And the fact that she has to take responsibility for SICH (independent of what the mother does) continues to apply. Even if she doesn’t want to hear him.
Oh, yeah, by the way… I have held your comment under my answer for the first time for sarcasm;)
Nevertheless, I don’t think it’s okay that you’re gonna blow your trouble. You are not obliged to answer questions. With an anonymous question of being detectively active in order to determine and share the identity of the questioner (what you did only in trains, but even the hints have lost nothing here) is not okay. Whatever the motivation of the questioner is – you do not have to evaluate that at this point.
I don’t care. I can eat what I want anyway, because I’m tall and thin and don’t take it.
I’d just like to eat what I want. Whenever I eat something sweet and she doesn’t have I a bad conscience…
although I know I have to increase
Yes, as someone has mentioned here, if you are financially possible, please look for your own apartment. I can understand you, I’m 55, and I’ve been with my mother for almost a year, because she’s 85, and she’s not alone anymore.
I look physically just like her and go in her direction, the difference is with me, I don’t have the ambition to be the same as her.
I need to do this alone so that I can take more consideration of myself.
I wish you all the best! And it’s really great that you take care of your mother.
You clearly don’t weigh too little… You urgently need medical help, as it seems to be a mental problem!
Personally, it’s not as important to me how much my family weighs. My weight belongs to me and as long as I can look proud in the mirror, the scale is also true.
Thank you. I had already wondered why there was no one on her distinct underweight.
Because she already knows… she was told about 100 times, she ignored it.
I’m always afraid I weigh more than my environment. that’s like a competition
I know the body size of my parents, siblings, nieces and nephews.
I don’t know who weighs.
My older sister is exactly the same size but much more peter-bad-sports (runs half marathon and does daily sports, I only 2-3x weekly).
I do not compare myself, each of us has a different body construction and its own advantages:)
I love my curves and want to keep them too 😁
No, I don’t care.
I’m eating what I’ve got, and I don’t care what the others eat.
And I always eat my plate empty because I don’t want to throw anything away.
You must learn that you are responsible for yourself and other people should not be an example for you.
But how do you learn best? I just can’t tie it down
https://youtu.be/69f3EX3FvGo
Are you m or w?
Female