Bysolar99
I'm incredibly shy, but I have a large family, most of whom I barely know. Whenever people want to talk to me, I'm always incredibly shy. What can I do about it?
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It was me too. Etws, which is very helpful, is your drowning. When you speak loud and the other person looks in the eyes, you lose your shy way very quickly.
Give yourself a jerk and just dare to get out of your comfort zone, shyness can be overcome, Brudi, start facing you small social challenges, such as more interacting with your family. Exercise makes the Master, from greedy, maybe it helps you to dress yourself more confidently or to have certain rituals that help you to loosen up before conversations or events. simply try out different approaches and find out what works best with you, you can do this
they live on the other end of Germany
Hello solar99,
You may think that you will always be caught in your shyness. It doesn’t have to be the case!
Basically, it is that you can often reach and change more than you believe. Even if you’re still relatively young and you don’t have much to do, you might be able to awaken strengths in you that can really lead you forward and help you to direct your thoughts and feelings in a different direction.
What are these powers that are in you and actually in any other person? I am thinking mainly of two things: your will and your thoughts. Both are closely related to each other, because your will allows you to control your thoughts in such a way that they ultimately influence your feelings in a positive direction.
Many people aren’t even clear about it. They let themselves be driven and wait for someone to come and help them. Of course, it’s nice if there’s someone who supports you and where you can unload your concerns. But not always has a loving and understanding person on his side. That doesn’t mean you’re lost!
So what to do? First of all, it is important that you understand how to properly control and use your will and thoughts. Your will is like the steering wheel in a car with which you can control one and the other direction.
Ask yourself: “Did I actually have the tax fixed in my hand and direct my thoughts, or would I let myself be steered by my feelings and thoughts?”
Many things are so that they are not aware that they have already lost control. Therefore, they feel helpless and hope that someone will come out of their position at some point. They forget that they themselves to do so!
Be aware that in reality you are not a weak person, but have a lot of inner strength! For example, you used your will so that you could distribute negative thoughts that you might always do about you and replace them with positive thoughts.
And if you hate anything about you, ask yourself, “What can I do to change or improve it?” If this isn’t possible, you’ll find out first of all and don’t think you’re worth anything!
Learn to accept yourself as you are and to like yourself. Do something good more often and be like a good friend to yourself! And another thing: never expect perfection from you and forgive yourself if you make mistakes here and there. Making mistakes is human, and others make mistakes like you!
You will surely know the phrase in the Bible: “Love your neighbour like yourself” (Matthew 22:39). Did you notice that here it says that you too self should love?
Of course, it doesn’t mean you should just think about yourself. No, it’s about balanced to be. Remember: Not only the others are important, but You!
Those who have no or only little self-confidence simply forgot to see themselves! But you can learn that! Don’t forget, you’re worth being loved, and there’s a lot of good in you! You probably haven’t discovered it yet!
And what is still important: no one manages to become a completely different person from today to tomorrow. Especially at the beginning, you will notice that your old patterns of thought might come up and the impression that you did not come much further. But don’t let your setbacks discourage you, but keep working on you! Over time, you will notice that you have developed in a positive direction.
And if you believe in God, remember that he sees you and that you are important to him! There are many places in the Bible that show this very beautifully. One example is a writer of the Bible, King David. In a prayer he once said: “You have searched me and you know me. You know when I sit and when I get up. From a distance you recognize my thoughts” (Psalm 139:1,2).
Think about it for a moment! David writes that God pierced him and knew him. Would God have done that if he hadn’t been interested in this man? And then he finally says that God knows his thoughts. Isn’t that all evidence that God takes part in our lives and we don’t care?
I wish you the one or other tip will help you.
LG Philipp