Unempathisch?
Meine Partner geht es sehr schlecht psychisch momentan. Ich fühle mich immer wieder überfordert, weil ich auch nicht weiss, wie ihm helfen genau..letzthin habe ich am telefon zu ihm gesagt, ob er nicht doch in eine Klinik gehen möchte..nun bin ich sein grösster Feind, ich habe kein Mitgefühl, das ganze System sei kalt und berechnend,alle hätten das Mitgefühl schon vor Generationen verloren..ich hatte gerade grosse Angst, als er so gesprochen hat, auch weil seine Stimme so einen hasserfüllten drohenden Ton hatte(in meinen Ohren?) .
So im nachhinein muss ich auch sagen, dass das irgendwie daneben war, das mit dem Vorschlag von Klinik. Oder ?
Kann grad schlecht mit mir leben, dass ich so unempathisch und kalt.oft.bin und es nicht einmal merke
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Who is not well psychologically has some possibilities:
He manages to get out of the low.
He uses his social environment (friends) to help him improve.
He does not create it from his own power and experiences the help of the social environment as not helpful, then a psychotherapy would be recommended.
As it looks, he refuses help – perhaps he has decided that it is better to suffer than to let himself be smiled, he is simply afraid of therapy, or fears a stigmatization (“has one on the gossip”).
Like that, communication does not seem to be its strength. You didn’t do anything wrong, and it wasn’t a mistake that you proposed him a therapy. You feel overwhelmed and helpless – can’t help him. That’s why you’re suggesting something to him (therapy) in order to remain capable of action at all. He blames you for lack of empathy. Who actually behaves unempathetic (and he will have good reasons), he is.
Thank you. I am so grateful for all these comments..🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
As fast as the one just tipped: no. Whether a clinic is necessary or not is another question, but speaking about it is actually sensible. Something’s pretty messy.
It’s not unempathetic, it’s just logical. Actually, a constructive proposal from you. Put his narrative on me, you are not his enemy, and the system is not evil either. He’s just in a funny movie…
Thank you very much. I also had this thought, but as he speaks, I then doubt my perception and think I’m really sick and cold as he says
I think more: He has no compassion and now pushes it into your shoes.
Think about it: Was he ever loving? Was he ever happy or did he enjoy life?
But he was often, and he was often the more positive of us.
You think rational or pragmatic. Most likely, he makes this negative blunt feeling out of you. If it’s bad, you’re still nice to “breathing” but the “own” people get to feel it.
Don’t be sad or hurt.
He’s not good, and you’re with the pitiful.
Ask him what help he expected.
Maybe it’s even annoying him that he’s been so harsh.
How can I give him that?😔
As you write and feel, you are very empathic. Only the poor one needs compassion and no advice at all. 😄
Oh, thank you so much for writing, your words are helping me very much.
It makes me very sad, I would like to support him, but it never works with our communication 😔 would like to be more emotional and not so rational. I was really going through again shortly before, I think then oh my God, I am so a bad person, etc.