My parents want to talk to the boss about my future. If I stay as an intern, I will have to be satisfied with the workshops and €180 a month and social security at some point. But that is no life for me because I am investing money and then the state would take it all away from me. Are they even allowed to do that?
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what workshops?
what intern?
Why not just 40std job?
Why would you work for 180/month?
a bit more info, please know what it is about!
Disabled workshops
In an integration company
Work 40 hours
as what? Career? Client?…
I am the disabled no the bosses are group leaders or Jobcoach
busy sidn both…
Employment
What prevents you from making your life as you want?
I generally do not think it is useful to be satisfied with social help and to resign
… because it contradicts the basic needs of every person from growth.
The user is known. Accordingly, presumably disability, but above all raised and intended by it, incomparability. She could do more, but according to her own statement, she doesn’t want to.
I can’t kneel down the whole day and don’t lift hard so I don’t find anything on the first labour market
My parents mean I can’t do anything else because it says my job coach
you repeat – and I repeat myself: it doesn’t matter what other sayings. Your life, your choice.
Ok good to answer your question from the post – if you want to continue living in selfless mode, then saving money is really completely useless…
I don’t want
Instead of putting your money, I would invest it in coaching and personality development.
Nice evening
The person is lazy and doesn’t want to do anything. But if she doesn’t get all pushed into her ass right away, she feels just attacked.
No I am not lazy
because you live with your parents for free
in your own apartment. or because the brother also pays the complete operating costs, internet, insurance, electricity, heating etc.
Because we want to live together because he doesn’t want children like me
I have not
and why would your brother pay for your apartment? Does he want to live with you?
BK = operating costs
From what I saved and the rest my brother
what is bk?
no it is not
How do you want to save 180€ on a condo? You’re retired, you can live that.
Suppose you can afford it soon. How are you gonna pay the BK? They cost more than you deserve, and what do you live on?
sorry but want to buy a condominium with 180€ – this is an unrealistic dream
That’s so much
I want a condominium
Nice we go to the baker
then do it and then take off. if your money is gone you will also receive social assistance
and sure it’s a lot more money than you get. You’re supposed to earn only 180€.
and I am from AT – there are food approx. 10-20% more expensive than in DE and we do not starve. We then buy a supermarket Semmel rather than a baker
That I have to work in the wfbm
And then the state gets all my money? I don’t get so much more money, and I can’t live with it just how expensive fruit and butter has become.
with what? if you apply for and withdraw the aid, they can no longer blackmail you as you are no longer financially dependent on them
Because they blackmail me
Then raise it and live on at the expense of your parents. As long as it’s okay, it’ll be fine. You live in their house and they then determine the rules and then, unfortunately, still keep partly over your life (and you seem to accept that too)
the money is meant for later
to 100x – they can not forbid you. they have no guardianship about you
May I not forbid my parents
then give it out….
But I’ve saved too much money I don’t get any social help or basic security you can’t have more than 5,000 €-10,000 €
then accept it and continue and apply for state aid – and then get a social apartment and can also get out of the home
I did internship there for several months and they have already seen that I worked only 10% and the other 100% jobs and then they had complaints about me
say that not tell me that the wfbm, jobcoach, my parents and measure that have said wfbm is best for me
if they didn’t hire you then you never worked for them – how did they know how fast you worked?
and getting a cancellation from 5 companies is nothing. In my life, I’ve got a lot more.
I wasn’t hired there
may no longer be inappropriate for my profession must remain in the workshops if the company that wanted to give me an indefinite working relationship on 01.10.2022
No for four or five companies all didn’t hire me because I was too slow and physically not so stressable
Then they didn’t listen to you…. every day 1000th people are announced, you keep going so long until you find the right thing
… so as long as you like to live a responsible life according to your own ideas
yes to a company. that does not mean that it is so for everyone
Because I worked there for several weeks and several months
How do you know you’re working slowly? that is not binding to those in the interview
That’s not true they’re leaning on me because I’m too slow
Yes, if you say anything about my parents during the interview, it won’t surprise me
Because I can’t find
do you think it’s funny to have meaningless conversations?
that you only talk out so why you can’t look for a job.
Haha
and again we turn in circles…
Because I refuse to say my parents
Why would you have a ban on applications? What legal basis?
I have a completed training red no bullshit I have banned applications
and? Then you write more applications. With disability + without training it is not easy to find a job. If you send 100 own-initiative applications, you will receive 99 cancellations and 1 invitation to a conversation. let’s say every 10. Invitation leads to a job. Then you’ll write 1,000 applications to get 1 job. It’s a lot yes – but where a will there is a way. especially since initiatv applications it is not even necessary to adapt the text. is almost just a copy box work.
Because I can only cancel anyway
and why doesn’t it matter?
No it doesn’t matter
My parents want me to save the pay
and? You have 180 € – stay 100 €. You live FREE .
Also too expensive
nice plus phones I have 80 € away or more
What if you don’t pay every trip on your own, but just take a monthly ticket??
e.g.
https://www.bahn.de/angebot/regio/deutschland-ticket
I come to €50-60 per month on my bill.
no 100 € and reckon this once 4 weeks are already 400 € away
But all the time
but yours
back and return costs 20 € together reckoning times 5 are 110 € a week that is too expensive
I didn’t mean your parents either.
But you still haven’t answered the question of principle: does anyone have the guardianship about you? If no then you don’t care who only gives you advice – you don’t have to follow it.
even if you can’t drive for free. you don’t pay rent, your parents finance your life – you can also buy a bus ticket for your 180€.