Am I overreacting to my father-in-law? Baby, family anger?

It starts with the birth of my baby.
2nd day in the hospital.
My father-in-law comes through the door, drenched in sweat, smelling of cigarettes and perfume, carrying a dirty sack while I'm breastfeeding. (My husband was already in the room with me.)

He puts the bag on the bed, doesn't say hello or ask how we are, but instead stretches out his hands to the baby and says: give me the baby.

I sent him out, and he was furious and didn't contact us for a week. He didn't ask how the baby was, etc.

A month later, the situation has already calmed down; we're taking the baby (1 month old) for a walk. He constantly takes the baby out of the stroller, wakes it up when it's asleep, constantly takes my baby out of my arms without asking, puts the baby's hands in his mouth, rubs his face against the baby's face, kisses my baby on the corner of the mouth… I lost it. I told him several times that I didn't want this, but he still tried to do it "secretly" over and over again.

My husband told him again and again, but it didn't really change anything.

4 months later he's still doing all these things and I don't know what to do.

There are simply things I don't want. But I don't really want to forbid contact either… my husband wouldn't want that either.

Am I overreacting? I'm already so angry whenever he's around… of course, this is also a stress factor for my marriage…