Despite vaginismus, I had no problems at a gynecologist's appointment once. Before and after, nothing worked! How is that possible?
I've had severe vaginismus for over a decade. This means I immediately close myself off completely as soon as anything even comes close to touching the entrance to my vagina.
I can't put my finger in, or a tampon! Every time I tried to put a tampon in, I automatically and reflexively closed it down! When I got some tips online about how to relax when inserting a tampon, I tried them step by step. And I actually got the tampon in about 1 cm while being as relaxed as possible, and then I suddenly felt sick and had to throw up immediately! The nausea was incredibly strong and I felt like I was going to faint. When I came to from the nausea and dizziness, I tried again. Then I felt sick again and stopped immediately before it got that bad again.
When I tried to go to the gynecologist to see her because my period pain was too severe, I didn't let her through the first few times and she didn't pressure me. She just did an ultrasound through my abdominal wall but said it would be easier through the vagina because they would be more likely to find the cause of my pain that way. I kept refusing. At some point at home I literally fell over because of my period pain and immediately made another appointment with the gynecologist and explained the situation to her. This time I wanted to dare to open up down there or at least try it and sure enough it worked without any problems, without any cramping and without any nausea, my gynecologist got through to my vagina with a mini camera! The very first time. That was about one and a half to two years ago! But after the examination nothing ever worked again. It's still as bad as it was before the examination.
Why did it work so well back then, and then it was over again? I don't understand!
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Vllt knew your body was doing you well because it wasn’t good for you. So that your subconscious has admitted it…
Thank you for your answer. It makes a lot of sense.
Sure. I hope you’ll let your vaginas go.
Thank you. I hope so.
This was probably due to the previous experience of so severe pain that the body “knowed” that there is actually a need for action and has signaled you that you will be relaxed accordingly. Because (not only) there happens a lot in subconsciousness, which you can’t even see and not explain (logical). That’s why I’m so happy for you that it worked so well during the investigation. Did she then also bring a solution or at least one approach, causing the pain?
The investigation was almost two years ago. But yes, anyway it was kind of that it worked for a change
I have endometriosis
I see. And could you help you achieve an improvement?
Yes!
If I can imagine, it is not an easy thing, because it is very personal and intimate. It will take some time to find a way to deal with it.
Thank you. It took a long time. At first, I wasn’t there.
Sure. By the way, I also find it very cool and courageous of you, even if it is an anonymous forum, to speak so openly about your situation. This is not only evidence of self-confidence, but also certainly helps others who are in a similar situation. I really need a lot of respect. 🙂
Thank you.
This is certainly also a good and helpful approach.
I’m really sorry, I really wish you a lot of power and energy! And I wish you that, in the future, there will be a final solution soon! 🙂
And because of my vaginality I’m looking for trauma therapy and tantratherapy I was recommended
Had two surgery because of my endometriosis at the women’s clinic at the beginning of this year. It’s been a little better since. But also begins to become a bit stronger from the pain
Perhaps you have to find out why you are “below” (in the case of threatening touches) is always totally disastrous!?
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Happy for you!
I already know the cause. That was not my question either.
But thanks anyway!
Ungood experiences – sexual abuse in childhood?
Maybe all these components played with you somehow!?
On the other hand, it was also important for me to finally get in the tampon :/
Can be! It was really important for me to finally find the cause of my period pain :/. Was already very desperate at some point because of the pain.
I don’t want to depend on it!
Keeping little of it
I’m against alcohol – but my first “married” girlfriend had her first orgasm with me when she came slightly drunk from a company party 🙂
What do you mean “lightly sleep” with little swaps?
If you let your psyche “slightly sleep” through a little swap?
No way
Have you ever tried nem (relaxing) orgasm? – Provided you get one – at the SB (by clitoris stimulation)!?
Partially and partly not
Was ES at least sanctioned? – Were they punished or condemned – these inhumans?
No way! I’m just getting bad when I think about it.
The whole thing also went over a decade, started since I could even think and it was not just a person.
… and not even your own finger … must probably have a bad effect – abuse!
No! Still not! nothing more than before
Will you get him in? – That’s a step forward.
Yes I am currently looking for therapy
Ever try to work up the traumatic experiences – “to solve” (psychotherapy)?
Yes!