(trauma) projection onto others?
I finally know what limits me.
Or rather why I am like this to people..
So, as a small child, I was despised by my mother. My father wasn't there. I was ignored and treated inhumanely in kindergarten…
Today, I project this onto women I meet and onto friends, for example.
If they don't have time, I'll pester them until they arrive.. (It's like screaming for your mother)
With women, it's a little different. For example, if a woman says I'm not her type, I still try to be her type (to please).
Or if she still finds me cute but looks so-so… then I have to insist that I somehow become her type and try to persuade her… (I don't know, maybe to get the love I never had…)
Well, if I don't get what I want, then I "suck up" or get aggressive…OR try to persuade. :/
Just like when she doesn't have time to quickly upload a story, I get upset and say things like "please don't ignore me…"
I want…I HAVE to work on it. Get rid of this crap…I've distanced myself from everyone for now…because I notice that a lot of people are fed up.
I create a feeling in my friends, or rather the person I'm with, that they'll never like me again…
I've already written to my psychologist. So maybe you can help me figure out what I can do about it. How to get rid of this crap.
I want the ability to be "normal"… that's the final stone. The final task. I've "changed" everything about myself.
My ADHD, depression, borderline personality disorder (black and white thinking), obsessive compulsive disorder…
And I'm noticing that I'm better at dealing with people, longer. I think this is the last thing I'll do that makes me unlikable…
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Hey Bro 😎 It's great that you realize what's burdening you, and that you're looking for help 🤝🤝
Your psychologist can give you good tips 😃
Try to make you aware when you have these feelings and then breathe deeply.
It will be better, step by step. Be strong and be proud of how far you have come!
Why does good question always have to play the psychologist?
I think the person just needs some nice words 😃😃
That's what I can answer from my own experience… it was like that, that the annoyed… mumbling. I was introduced into a psychiatry, and I had to beg a psychologist. Five weeks. You just stuffed me with medicine. And the week 6 said it was not paid to the sickness fund. I got a psychologist. a Romanian doctor who spoke semi-German. He didn't understand me. Great. And that goes on. I should go to the day clinic, they let me go for 3 months. When I finally walked in the first step, it was called "sorry. Let's not take you up."
So you're looking for help, and you're just getting kicked. So here are always 1-2 smart heads that help you better through life experience etc. as annoyed.
For example, I found my investment here. (Great go out) good question net has helped me so far to focus for development. Etc
It's not about the person… I'm sorry
Your life task is not to get any shit away, but to develop more self-love.
I recommend getting closer to topics like
to make smart. In the long question description, 1 sentence is the most important one that explains why you are unsatisfied with yourself.
You express compulsion and struggle. You fight against certain personalities. It is not internal peace in you, but self-defense. (You should therefore feel tense too often.)
When you express yourself, you express what is in one. So if you are fighting and self-defense in you, and you communicate with others, then you will logically provoke rejection from others.
If you want love from others, it's best if you express love for others. It's just when you feel love in you. Because only then can you express them. You have nothing else to do with your unloved shares. As long as you think Sche1s is in you, you have a Sche1s opinion from you. As long as you make this act of faith your "teacher", you can't rely on love. Even if a very understanding and loving woman would meet you, you will set yourself against her love for war, as long as there is no self-love in you. Your life task is not to get any shit away, but to develop more (self)love.
Note: Look in here if you like: https://lovene.now Scroll the whole side down. There are also free online events and numerous blog articles from people who – like you – are on the path of personality development and want to support each other. Because one thing is clear: nobody can do it alone.
Bro…everything nice and good. Just won't really help me. I'm against the projections. And I have to get that away. So analyze, understand, leverage. There I can love pernen ect as much as I want… but if I get in touch with people, then "projection" happens
Simplified: a human with depression. Is like when you say to that, be happy, work on being happy…. that won't work because depression is in the brain..in the body okay? It must be treated. With medi, and therapies. With me, it's the way I've found out what it is..but STILL has no idea what it is. Because it is really difficult, since small on anchored in consciousness and behavior ect, unfortunately only goes away from the "stupid" art.
In addition, this problem comes, my self-love bursts, in which I deal with the problem with others… that's like a kind of teufel circle. Can you see.google: projection psychology.
It's special.
What do you mean "stupid"?
No, and no again! What's wrong with therapists?
That's right! But it's not all that happens in contact with loved ones. You're going to therapy where projection happens. And yet you need the therapist.
What do you mean, what do you think of my projections? But I hardly have a problem with that. One needs healing experiences through contact with suitable people, for example therapists, etc. The neural links in the brain must be "overwritten" with correcting experiences for which other people (not just therapists) need. The possibilities of therapy are limited. Therapy alone is not enough.
But all at his time. The link to affectionate. Can you remember later – maybe in 1 or 2 years if you're not so scared of it anymore.
You could also look into my profile so you know who you have to do it here.
Love for you!