Herbal remedies for nervousness. Can I become addicted?

I want to take tablets containing valerian, hops, and lemon balm to combat my restlessness. Herbal remedies are not supposed to cause physical addiction. But I'm afraid I'll become psychologically dependent. So whenever I feel more anxious, I want pills. Or I think I'm anxious because I haven't taken any pills, etc. Is this a…

Plant estrogens?

I've noticed that many foods high in protein also contain a lot of phytoestrogens (plant estrogens). Of course, this is a shame for men who want to build muscle. Is there a way to get rid of these phytoestrogens? Maybe because of the heat? By roasting, frying, etc. these foods?