Student who can't cook?
My sister (21) is a student, and the rest of the family is a working family. My parents finance her studies, including rent, food, etc. We work, and we're usually just exhausted on the weekends.
Every weekend she comes home on the train to do one thing: put away her dirty laundry and pick up food. She can't cook and doesn't even try. And since my father can't cook either, my mother always has to cook her extra sausage and pack it in Tupperware containers. Since my mother works on Sundays too, she always has to do this under pressure and you can tell: she's exhausted and tired. I take it from my mother every now and then and then have to prepare the food for her. I told my mother she should leave it alone, because my sister boasted loudly before she went to university that she would then be independent.
I don't see any of that.
My question: How can I change the situation?…Is it okay as a student…?
To this day, she doesn't see that anyone else is simply exhausted from their own work…
I can accept people who can't cook. But if you brag before hand that you can… I'm at my wit's end.
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The fact that she can't cook is her problem.
That she's taking it easy at your family's expense is not the case.
Talk to your parents calmly.
That's how you started, and that's how you have to keep it going. No, that's not true, but you're already spoiling her a lot.
At that age, any child can do their own laundry and cook pasta, and even make a sauce for it. Simply warming up vegetables or throwing them into water is no big deal. She doesn't want to, and you're supporting her vigorously. She says she can't, but consider for herself that that's just an excuse.
Our children have already learned such work during their school years.
In the future, you'll show her how to use the washing machine and dryer, and you'll take her out and cook together so that this stress will finally be over.
You can't change the situation at all. If so, your mother would have to put a stop to it and say, "This isn't working. Cook your own food and grow up." That means she simply wouldn't be allowed to cook for your sister anymore. But your mother has to make that decision herself.
She's just lazy as hell – she'll do something if you don't give her anything else to do.
As long as your mother does this, nothing will change.
Simple dishes aren't so difficult that a student can't make them. She'll probably be able to read.
Why don't you have a reasonable talk with your sister and tell her that cooking is stressing your mom out. Tell her to stop.
I already did. The answer was "Nobody forces Mom to do it."
If your mother agrees, don't interfere.
It's more of a mother-daughter thing.
Not you at all. If so, then your mother will have to change it. But she doesn't seem to be bothered by your sister's behavior that much.