Should I tell my mother?
I'm moving in with my dad soon because at my dad's I have him and my sister and a real family, and I have a lot of opportunities there too.
There's nothing really holding me back here, I don't have any really good friends, my mother has only been there for her boyfriend and his boyfriend's child over the last few years, I've never been irrelevant.
Now my mother came first and said "it's a pity you're leaving"
and I'm just thinking to myself, the last few days you weren't even interested in me, you weren't even there for me, and you were excluded from everything and I felt like such a stranger in this house.
Now since she said that, thoughts keep coming back to me and I'm honestly asking myself whether I shouldn't tell her that she was never there for me in the last few months or years, that I had to deal with everything on my own and now you're saying "it's a shame you're leaving" doesn't fit at all, you didn't care how I was doing.
But I also don't want her to feel guilty when I leave and maybe it's just better to act normal.
What should I do? How can I deal with this so that I don't constantly think about how my mother never felt like she was there for me?
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She was there for you. You had a dach over the head, was dressed, fed and was given a gift. what you describe is normal everyday and envy to younger siblings. that will not be different with your father.
Your mother will say you shouldn’t stop traveling.
I had a roof over my head, the whole other points don’t agree I paid myself with the money I earned by the way or by maintenance of my dad.
now is content and come in that you use it for you. So she dressed you, fed you and took care of you. If you grow up sometime, you’ll be able to understand. until then many years will pass.
he should be clear
I went to work myself so that I can afford what because I didn’t get anything, you can take it slow or live in your own world and know my situation better than myself
The guy is stupid, I say I’ve paid 90% of everything myself and he keeps laughing your imagination, he’s supposed to look for help
Do you not understand that children/young people need not only clothes or food? Children need love and affection
she went to work because she earned money next to school. Nobody forced her to do that. which it must apply in relation to alg2 for its own is generally known and of course. if she had not gone to work, the mother would have received full benefits. So the kids are just rolling around
Don’t you listen? He/she has said that he/she has gone to work himself to finance his life. Generally, it’s disrespectful that you’ll touch him/her from the side with your cub.
you didn’t pay. your father has paid maintenance and that was counted on your needs when the state pays. of this money you must of course carry to home your costs: rent, electricity, food, clothing etc. for this is your income consisting of reward, child money and maintenance now there. this is not your money. So your mother took care of you.
just because you are full-year, it doesn’t make you an adult. You still lack a lot of spiritual maturity.
sorry but you have no idea I am already over 18 and if your education should look like this, then I am sorry for the child now.
and again I paid all myself 90% I paid everything myself except my room, but the state pays.
I am grateful for my life, but that has nothing to do with family.
I’d give her a “tip” why you’re moving away, you can tell her how you felt about her. She seems to have had a completely different look than you.
As you write, your mother didn’t worry about you either.
So pull it through so you’ll be happy.
Findings stop funny now she comes after all she finds it a pity or if I need help packing
Shame? is a lip confession if she wants to help you pack….you can also understand this.
Maybe she thinks you’re missing some help.