Sind meine Eltern zu streng?
Hallo zusammen,
ich (w16) hab mich neulich ein bisschen mit meinen Eltern angelegt.
ich bin halt nachts auf ne Studenten Party gegangen obwohl sie es mit verboten hatten und war dann schnell ziemlich sturzbesoffen.
jetzt haben sie mir dieses Wochenende Hausarrest gegeben, was ja an sich schon total veraltet ist. Also ich darf schon noch raus, aber halt dieses Wochenende auf keine große Party mehr.
ich find das schon echt ein bisschen zu autoritär und bin damit echt unzufrieden. Was meint ihr?
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No, your parents are not too strict. In my eyes (and in the eyes of the most people who answered here) they were more too easy with you. You’ve become blurred in the middle of the night on a student party that has been explicated and is not even suitable for your age (I guess you’re a student and not a student with your 16 years). You don’t have to wonder why you got house arrest and can’t get to big parties anymore. You could have done something else and 2 days of house arrest (while it isn’t even house arrest in your case, since you can’t go on parties) as “authoritarian” is exaggerated. You’ll survive.
Hello Lenny,
Your parents should tell you why you shouldn’t drink alcohol. If they do not know themselves, you will find here https://www.drugcom.de/newsuebersicht/top themes/how-alcohol-das-gehirn-junger-menscher-schaedigt/ the effects on the brain. In addition, alcohol is the cause of more than 200 different diseases and even genetic changes can occur during puberty.
No, it’s not too strict. After all, you did something your parents have forbidden you. You have to live with the consequences. However, you should have realized that there could be. Apart from that, a party ban is still a fairly harmless punishment. In addition, you should be more responsible for Alk.
that means you know that you do something you can’t do and do it anyway and you know that there will be trouble before – sorry but then you can’t complain later. You even put it on it.
to an ü18 party.
and then it comes to…
No is not outdated. Only the original form is outdated. Normal house arrest is no longer a punishment today if you do not even prohibit TV/Internet/Mobile/Computer/Playstation etc. And it seems that’s still because you’re totally upset about it. I find the punishment still mild. I’d have two weeks. 1x for going to the party though you can’t and drink the 2x for the alcohol.
so you only have party ban and no house arrest. = got a VERY mild penalty. 1x does not celebrate for such a ne action – that is nothing.
that you are unsatisfied is the meaning of punishment. but your parents are not authoritarian. You’d have got more trouble with me.
Absolutely not. Be happy Digga, alcohol especially too much at this age as you can divert yourself into stupid things and then it just has to see one/e and he can make a video or just tell around and your life is ruined. And if you can go out with your friends, it’s not a house arrest. Your parents act for you and not against you. Then the absurd rules would be okay, but that will protect you.
Your parents not only have a right of custody, but also a duty to worry about you.
They are responsible for you and this also includes your social approach.
I’ve raised my two girls quite loosely and allowed them many freedoms, but as a 16-year-old at a student party with 20-year-old half-strong? I wouldn’t have allowed that.
Put yourself in the position of your parents: You’re not just sneaking out of the house, despite the ban, but you’re still acidifying yourself? You hurt the confidence of your parents in the autumn.
My dear girl, with me you wouldn’t have just got a weekend house arrest, but half a year. And I’d have taken your key to the door.
Do we live in the Middle Ages or how? They should be proud that I don’t sit in school or do such stupid stuff
do not sit – sorry but this is not a special achievement that you must emphasize. I went to school for 12 years and there was no seats left. So this is the exception and not the rule
And you’re not doing stupid stuff? Get out of the house, go to a party where you can’t go and get drunk – but no you don’t do stupid things.
To sneak out of the house to a party and come home in the open air despite the parental ban, isn’t there any “thin stuff”???
If you would talk to me like that when your mother was speaking, half year would quickly become carcers; then you would have your middle age.
My girls would never have dared to abuse my trust.
Yes, to a “normal party” but not to a student’s suit. My girls also went to parties, and they’ve been drinking alcohol once, but they never had to be filled. For this, the two had too much self-responsibility.
In addition, I have usually played Mama-Taxi for both of them and their friends, because we don’t have buses at night on the plate land.
Believe me, I’ve never had to say prohibitions with my girls or even impose punishments. They had more insight and sense of responsibility at your age. They stayed at home with 15 and 16 sometimes for weeks because I was on the outside service professionally. My daughters had a bank card with pin for my account, bought themselves and supplied themselves.
Would your parents give you full access to the bank account? Certainly not if you’re not trustworthy at all. Think about it from this side. In a family, unconditional trust should prevail, from both sides. But trust can only exist if you can rely on each other.
Sorry but it’s quite normal to go to a party, you can’t just keep teenagers as caught as in nem authoritarian state
No, your parents are not too strict with you. Find the penalty too harmless, because you just got a ban on not going to a party the weekend, or you can do anything else.
Your parents reacted very moderately. I can feel it. Whether you consider this as authoritarian or dissatisfied – irrelevant. Your parents can make such a decision as part of their educational task.
What are you doing? I find a week house arrest (not just party ban) would definitely have been sensible. A weekend party ban is a no house arrest and b much too short. House arrest under a week cannot work properly Su shalt learn something from it.
there’s still air up with your parents.
I think they still reacted too loose.
How do you say that?
because you did not act against her, and then you were “before drunk.”
Your parents had to give you a full house arrest for two weeks. except school, only at home!
do you want to praise? Sorry, but that’s not art. You might have to look 1-2 years older.
Besides, I know someone who’s already studied at 16 and I was asked at 28 in the supermarket to buy wine. I’m sure I didn’t look great older than you.
If you don’t look like 12 you come to a student party with 15 without any problems. No one controls your age
irrelevant.
Your parents have forbidden it, and you have disregarded this ban and let you go full. you deserve a punishment. At the end of the discussion, whether you are dissatisfied with it, does not matter.
Well, I don’t mean everyone gets to sneak at a student party
should they be thankful?
beating is outdated (and also completely forbidden), but house arrest is still a suitable educational means.
Never that’s something like that last millennium.
You should be stricter.
How about that?
It’s obvious. Just like you’re a troll
In any case – which parents are not happy (except yours) when their children go unauthorized on a student party, shoot themselves out there completely and get back home….let’s be looser – after all you didn’t smoke crack or spray heroin….or??
No
If your parents are mega nice, I had a very different look. The punishment had to be much harder.
What
Educational home
I mean, you were lucky.
Many young women disappear and are never seen again.
And there are still mass rapes etc.
You’re lucky
I’m sorry for your poor parents