Selbstverletzung Meinung?
Hallo liebe Community! Ich verletze mich manchmal selbst und es soll jetzt gar nicht darum gehen… was mich sehr belastet sind die Narben die nicht mehr weg gehen und ich habe total angst dass es jemand mal zufällig sieht weil ich mich extrem dafür schäme! Ich kann zum Beispiel auch nicht mehr schwimmen gehen oder Ähnliches da meine Narben dann auffallen würden, ich habe auch niemanden dem ich das anvertrauen kann und/oder will! Ich kann mich so nicht mehr blicken lassen! Hat jemand von euch Tipps/Meinungen dazu?
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I’m not going to blame you for how bad Sv is, because I know from my own experience that doesn’t happen. But of course, it would be very helpful if you were looking for help or talking to someone familiar about it, but you also have to be ready and want it. Other people can really help you get away from it, otherwise more scars come back with which you feel uncomfortable. You can learn to accept your scars with time, learn methods what you can do instead and leave this time behind you. Of course, it takes time and is often difficult and works best if you are not alone. I can advise you that it is better to face his fears and seek help than to become addicted and to hide forever, for that has happened to me and I do not wish anyone. You’re not alone, you can do this!
I have a lot of scars on my entire body. So I know your fears and uncertainties very well, I am definitely not free of it. What helped me anyway was to tell friends about it at least. Most react better than expected and many had experiences with it (not with all I knew it before). At some point, I started when it was very hot at least to pull up a sleeve and then to taste slowly. In the meantime, this is no problem with my friends (fresh wounds I don’t show but I don’t think it’s okay) and if I’m on my own somewhere, I’m getting my jacket more and more often, even go out completely without it or have a shorter pants. My tattoos, which do not cover scars, but I just find them very cool and like to show them to the outside. Strangers sometimes stare at you and I have already received comments, but it usually keeps within limits. Only with my family I always hide my scars completely.
Your scars are nothing to be ashamed of. They are part of your body and, ultimately, every person has any scars. If you have a problem with yours, it’s their problem alone. But I know that it takes a lot of time to make you feel ready to show up scars. Just push slowly. As it feels best and simpler for you. So maybe if you’re out on your own and you’re warm, just pull up a sleeve and you’ll realize that nothing bad happens. Not even if someone should see that.
And in general, it helps very much if at least one person you very trusted also knows about it. Just to have an eye on it, even if you worry that something needs to be medically supplied or just want to talk to someone. And sometimes it really helps if you just know that you could talk to someone about it at any time
You should leave it. Self-infringement is weak and can lead to disadvantages in the later part of your life. It’s better to stop and get help with therapists, you’re not alone.
Self-infringement is not stupid. It has a reason why many often don’t know how to help. It is of course not good and you should work to find other methods, but I find it wrong to call it weak. In the worst case, this only leads to the fact that those affected are ashamed more and do not dare to seek help or even more condemn themselves for doing what can lead to renewed self-infringement (paradox, but often happens. Strong negative feelings and self-hass can often lead to SV)