Very personal questions in a job interview. What now?
Hey,
Today I had an interview at a large company with over 30,000 employees (I don't want to mention any names here 😄)
It's possible that I'm completely overreacting, but I think some very personal questions have been asked, which I found borderline offensive. For example, there was a question about how I react in arguments with my girlfriend. I tried to keep my answers as general as possible, of course. But then they harped on for quite a while about me describing a specific situation and what it was about. Being grilled is perfectly normal in a dating relationship. But I find questions about my relationship rather odd.
I just wanted to ask how you feel about this. Would something like this be too private for a VG, or do you think it's perfectly legitimate? And could it cost me my job because I tried to beat around the bush a bit?
I would be grateful for any answer 🙂
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In this case, the employer does not want to know what it was about in the conflict with your girlfriend, but how you trade in conflicts. They can sometimes see how you deal with conflicts. Some people leave the room in a conflict. It can be concluded in the company that you are rather a person who shyes a conflict. Or if you say that you wait until the great emotions have been laid and then try to speak again in fact, then they can conclude that you would try to clarify a conflict on work.
That’s how I formulated it. It was rather irritating to me that they wanted to know exactly what was the difference of opinion.
You want to know how you would react in a situation.
they have brought a case-play. Dispute with girlfriend is nothing personal. You could have fought with neighbors.
private
Sexual preferences….
You shouldn’t publish your real name here.
If you had explained your dispute resolution strategy (in an explicitly hypothetical case), you would have collected positive points.
You get the impression that you really have a fight with your girlfriend.
You may have been expected to refuse to reply. Depends on the position you want to take. It is not disrespectful or inappropriate to point out that if you have the questions about private
They just want to know how you’re going to fight and whether you’re going to join the company;)
You should have asked the question: Do you find it appropriate to ask such intimate questions?