Pregnant and a thief, please help?
I (13) found out a few months ago that I'm pregnant and since then my mother has been telling me every day how much she hates me and that she won't pay for this baby. I don't want to have an abortion. I'm often embarrassed at school because of the pregnancy. When I told my boyfriend, he hung up and blocked me. Five weeks ago, I committed a massive theft at school and got caught trying to steal 1,000 euros. I didn't know what came over me, but I was scared that my mother really wouldn't pay for the baby. I know that's no reason to steal. Everything was returned and nothing else happened because I haven't been charged yet. I just can't stop thinking about what happened. No one in the class knows it was me and I just feel uncomfortable sitting here. My teachers told me to accept that it happened and let it go. They probably hate me now too. All the teachers at school know it was me. I just can't let go, what should I do. Am I depressed or something?
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I don’t think teachers hate you. Maybe they even understand you. Everyone makes mistakes. You could settle it – that’s good.
Regarding pregnancy: if you really don’t get support from your parents, what about other relatives? Is there a grandma that has more understanding?
If nothing really goes, I can only give the advice to turn you to the Youth Office.
Oh, yes, the child’s father is not out of the number. He’ll have to pay for the child if not now, then later.
No, you only regret a deed you did. It doesn’t make you depress. I’d get help from the youth office. There they give you advice on your future, financial help and accommodation. They won’t take your baby away. See that you prefer to get help beforehand to get on the right way with the youth office, that’s better than when you’re thrown out at home, don’t have money for you and baby, and then the youth office has to be picked up.
jugendamt is really the best contact partner. that home I was having a mother-child group. was there a couple of times to visit and that was mega class there and it was always an educator there if something is going on with mother and/or baby
I’m so happy for you that it worked so well! How old is your child now? 😇
I’ve been pregnant. was only in the same building as the mother child group. was in my house because my mother died and my father was not allowed to take care. but by my visits in the group you have already got a good picture how it goes
Hi.
I can’t help you much. But maybe you can find a suitable contact 🙂
https://www.caritas.de/hilfeundberatung/ratgeber/pregnantschaft/als-junge-mutter-das-leben-meister
Maybe you can make an appointment with the future father there. After all, it is also for a rather overwhelming person. There you can help both of you and support you more. It is important for you both to know that you are not alone. For quite everything there is a solution to days.
Maybe ask your mother or a friend if she’ll accompany you.
I really hope this is a troll contribution…
You’re 13 and you want to raise a child. You don’t seem to be able to do that at all. That’s the point – with 13 you don’t even have the necessary understanding to care for yourself. How are you going to take care of another little man?
Your behavior is absolutely selfish and immature, but completely normal for a 13-year-old, which is why girls at this age should not get children. What do you think this is going to happen? The youth office will definitely turn on and you will be accommodated in a mother-child-home. I can understand that your mother doesn’t want to raise your baby.
If you were “grown” enough to sleep with each other without appropriate contraception, then now you are also so grown up to give the child in responsible hands so that there can be a beautiful life.
This isn’t about you at all, it’s about a little baby that needs to be protected and protected!
you are in an absolute exceptional situation and finally need support, more than anything else!
Is there any relatives that can help you?
Trust teacher?
If you have an emergency, contact the youth office!
Your mother is supposed to be ashamed to let you hang like that! What’s that for a mother?
I think your mama needs to finance the baby,or if escalated go to a mother’s child home
There is no reason for a 13 year old girl to sleep with a man
great tip, real.
I’m sure she’s helping her. Such kind of exhortation is exactly what she needs now. Don’t!
If the body already has an ovulation, then the body is ready to carry out a child. So there are also reasons to do it.
Should 11 years have sex and get children just because they already have their period?
What? You can’t be serious.
Why are you doing this anyway?Have 13 years nothing better to do or what?
Why should I lie? Do you think if I didn’t have any problems, I’d beg for advice? But I’m 13, I’m pregnant, I stole money almost from school I’m desperate, my parents have made it clear that they hate me and that they don’t want to finance the baby. I’m afraid I’ve heard it’s bad for the health. My friend left me. What else do you want to hear? I really can’t use such comments now
You’re lying. And you’re not 13.
Thank you.
Yes a 13-year-old shouldn’t have sex yet, is peculiarly also forbidden but not punishable. I did it and I got pregnant because I didn’t care well enough. I hope this will stop the fight now.
… yes, which is not to return to child-birth children, but a general bad care and medicine.
You want to and can be a difference.
A child is a child and not a mother.
In areas where you represent your opinion, there is a high mortality of children and mothers.
Yes. Why would you have an ovulation? That means the body is ready for a child, even if it is still a child.