Schwägerin mischt sich ein?
Hallo
Wir haben ein Problem mit meiner Schwägerin. Sie ist 21 und hat leichtes Borderline. Sie hat immer Recht, duldet keine Kritik und spricht in einer Art Gosse Sprache.
Nun bekommen wir bald unser erstes Kind. Meine Schwägerin meinte dass sie dann immer da sein will und sich auch in der Erziehung engagieren will und einmischen will …. Zusätzlich redet sie immer von Ihrem Baby.
Wie kann man hier entsprechend dagegen vorgehen?
A clear and possibly multiple NO is the least. No one has to interfere in the education of your child
If she says she’s coming to get involved, say no.
You should also talk to the father like this, she can come by but she does not have to talk to the education, otherwise she can like to go.
Show her clear limits. If the baby’s here.
Maybe you’re even very grateful for their support. That’s what it shows.
But don’t let you guard. You must also have your own experiences.
Tips can be given if you want to stick to it, you decide.
You can also thank her for her willingness to help. If you need your help, you’ll see. I already said.
If she’s too intrusive, you have to tell her.
Well, with 21 and childless she will hardly have good advice and tips for the young parents.
I didn’t say the advice was valuable. Some people have an opinion about everything without knowing. You don’t have to stick to it as I wrote. She can talk as much as she wants.
Completely overcrowded!! Your sister-in-law hasn’t interfered with DA, let alone educating the child. And it’s not even IOHR baby.
You and your husband should tell her this clearly and clearly… that she can come to visit, but everything else she does not care about GAR and she hasn’t gotten involved.
PunkT! It’s not different. Even if she should be insulted… that’s not your problem.
Get out. If she behaves, she may come back.
set clear limits – now already
if necessary complete contact termination
that she speaks of her baby
Limit the contact to a certain degree. From the beginning – draw clearly limits…. already now – make it clear that the education is with you as parents.
e.g. – she uses the Gossen language she is asked to go – you don’t have to accept everything.
Does she pay rent? Not more.
Is she a landlord? Not at all!
Does she have a right of custody, a duty to participate or work on education? I’m tapping NO!
I would first give her a friendly message that she will of course be able to enjoy the young, but before this young boy is wounded or educated by her, she may first demonstrate to Ner BabyBorn Puppe.
Whenever she says “your baby” ask directly “who has the fat belly and takes all the shit with pregnancy? Thanks, no answer necessary, my belly says more than any of your answers!
(Of course, pregnancy is also beautiful, but it is not all gold that shines).