Pregnant without a “job”?
Hello, I (f22) have been in a very healthy and good relationship for 2 years. My boyfriend and I live together and so far it's been going really well. We both love children and decided long ago that we wanted to have some at some point, once I'd finished school and university. I'm currently attending an adult high school and want to get my Abitur (high school diploma) (takes 3 years – I'm in my 1st year). I recently found out that I've become pregnant unexpectedly. My boyfriend has a permanent job at a very good company and earns around €3,900 B a month. However, I contribute to our lifestyle through student loans and child benefit. Now I'm totally panicking, 1. because I have no training and am in the middle of building something for myself and 2. our apartment is too small 3. how am I supposed to finance a child???? I also don't want to become dependent on my boyfriend because of the child. I don't have any parents or family who would support me or help me in any way. I'm not sure if I want to have an abortion either… what should I do? Can someone please put my mind at ease? :/
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Talk to your friend. He should decide with you. Maybe he can take you a lot of trouble.
Hello
With child to visit a school, the Abi will not be easy to catch up and study.
Promise the pregnancy with your friend. Maybe you have to be dependent on him.
Also arrange a consultancy appointment for example at Pro Familia. There you will be guided by possible financial help. After that, you can decide whether you want to get the child or yet drive away.
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Hello,
Just go to a pregnancy conflict counseling, they’re not just there for wanting to run away, but can tell you, for example, exactly what your financial opportunities would be with child, what you’d have to apply for, and what there might be for care opportunities to finish your school.
Have you talked to your friend about this? Maybe he has an idea
No not yet – I’m waiting for him to come home and I can tell him (he’s on a business trip)
Hello Nilessxo, is your friend coming home this weekend? He will also be surprised at the first moment and need some time until the news begins.
Talk about it. Listen to each other well and give you time. Does he have to travel on Monday or is he on site? How beautiful, at least, that you understand so well and agree that you want to have a family together 🙂
I’m sorry you don’t have parents or family. It’s not easy for you. The more you will have in mind what is important to your own family.
Well, that you wrote here. You’re not alone now.
Give yourself time. At the first moment you’re in shock and you can’t think clearly. Only when the surprise has set a bit, you can see more clearly and think about a plan. You could probably finish the first school year in any case.
How come you don’t want to be financially dependent on your friend? I mean, if you live together and run a household?!
Write again, yes 💖 All love for you!
I’d talk to him first. Perhaps this will change your life into positive
Hey, I’m so happy with you 💖 You quickly clarified that your surprise baby may come. Congratulations! That your school is so ingenious. You’ll make it! Women tell that they worked with baby all the more concentrated in their training or at school, because they were of course super motivated.
How are you today? Where you still need support, there are you. Would you like to write to me if you need more tips. Greetings!
Hello, thank you for your loving-building comment. My friend has been back this morning and already knows the great news. At first, he was like you already knew it was very surprised and tears flowed. It turned out that they flowed with joy. We decided to keep baby. I also discussed this with my school today and of course I would like to go on with school. I’m going to go to school with the baby and my school as well as my friend want to stand by my side and of course support me with all this. As far as financing and housing is concerned, we do not yet know, but I think the “emergency” can be done a lot. I’ll probably get a lot from two. Buy a hand (original equipment is very expensive) – which does not matter to me, as babies grow incredibly fast anyway.