Pregnant, what now?
Hello 👋🏻
I'm 19 years old and pregnant relatively unexpectedly. I'm somehow in a total conflict with myself. All my life, I've wanted to have children and become a mother early, and I'm actually against abortion. My boyfriend is turning 25, and we've only been together for nine months. Nevertheless, we're certain of our unconditional love for each other; We've said all along that we want a child at some point. But now that the time has come, questions and worries arise. I had my high school exams last month; my plan had been to go to university. Will that work with a child? And how? I also work part-time at a youth center (20 hours a week). Am I allowed to continue working there? How much am I allowed to work while pregnant? And then there are financial worries, too. I've already read a lot about possible options online. To answer the question of whether I feel ready for it, I would like to say that I already believe I can raise a child. But I honestly don't know how hard it would be for me to have an abortion because I was always against it… My boyfriend and my family support me completely, I can rely on that, no matter what decision I make. I also don't think I'd miss out on anything because I prefer being at home with my family anyway, and having our own little family with my boyfriend was our greatest dream. I can see a few stumbling blocks and hurdles, but I actually think it's doable. Especially because we've already overcome a lot of hurdles together as a couple. I just don't know what to do because it's very scary. On top of that, my biggest worry is that I only found out a few days ago that I'm most likely pregnant. But last Friday I had a drink, smoked weed now and again, and I'm also a smoker. I would be in the 5th week of pregnancy now, should I be worried about the child's health? If I stop now? The father also smoked weed occasionally and is a smoker too. But as I said, we've both stopped doing that now that we know. And what's the best way for me to eat?
I ask for serious answers. And no condemnations.
Thank you in advance.
best regards
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Why probably? Didn't you test yet? You should do that to be certain.
If the test is positive, you should stop smoking and drinking right away, but you don't have to worry too much that you've already caused damage.
And then, in your place, I would make an appointment at the pregnancy conflict counseling. There will be comprehensive advice on all your questions, including financial support, labor law situation and so on. If you decide to break down, you will need the advice certificate anyway.
You have the support of your friend and your family, that's great!
Good luck!
If you love each other and you wanted to become a mother early, everything is good. Studying with child already works, of course, is not as easy as when you are free… However, there are support options and also financial assistance. Make a year and start next year?
Go to the consultancy, there they can show you exactly what help you get and what possibilities there are.
With smoking, ciffing, alcohol, of course you should stop IMMEDIATELY right now you know.
Nutrition: Healthy (fruit, vegetables, whole grain products, drink a lot (water, tea…)
You can do this…. Good luck!
There is nothing serious fit for consumption. If it were, it would have lost the egg at this early stage. But now definitely the fingers of it, because in the later course there can be permanent damage to the embryo.
The main point is now the female doctor for you. He also monitors pregnancy, ultrasound, blood collection, advises you and gives you contact points. Unlike you, it is not his first pregnancy 👍
I think if it's planned anyway, there won't be a better time I don't think it would be nice if you did it and later you get one and there would be a big sister or brother a bit sad somehow.
Hello Vanessa, that you're going through a lot of things now and you're wondering how everything can go with pregnancy and then with the child, is normal. Even women who are planning to get pregnant know that. But before you keep doing all the thoughts, you're best doing a urine pregnancy test. If he's positive, the next step would be to confirm pregnancy with the female doctor. He looks in the ultrasound if everything's okay. Can you talk to your friend and how is he doing with all this? Can you talk to your mother?
Raising a child is a very beautiful and fulfilling task. Certainly it is a logistical challenge to bring a study/work and child under pure hat. But if the relationship is stable and everyone helps, there is no reason to kill the child?
Hello, Vanessa, do you know if you're pregnant or not? Would you like to write if you need more tips or want to replace yourself. Have a good weekend with and despite all 👋