Often have problems with younger brother?
Hello everyone
I am the firstborn and have a brother who is one year younger.
We had argued a lot before, but back then it was just the typical "sibling fights." Over time, however, it got worse.
As the eldest sister, I take responsibility for a lot of things, which means I bear the most consequences for my actions. To be honest, I just can't take it anymore. He breaks my things, insults me, mocks me in front of his friends, uses my insecurities to blackmail me, hits me (and no, not just with his hand, once even with a chair). I'm overwhelmed. I always try to be nice, but it doesn't help. I lock myself in my room all the time, and then he comes and knocks and yells, or treats me like a servant.
Crying doesn't help either, what the hell am I supposed to do?
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Such a thing is called a non-existent impulse control. With currently approx. 12 years should be learned quickly! But sibling education is not one thing among one another, that is the task of your parents!
Your parents may have educated your brother in the sense of a patriarchal attitude? At least, it would seem like it was like this: superiority and physical violence against the female sex.
Pulling back doesn’t bring anything to the offensive. First of all, make it clear that physical violence among young people is no longer acceptable at all and also demand “hard” consequences for your parents. (“Hart” means something here that temporarily and effectively limits the delinquents. For such young boys, the deadlines would be up to one day and a restriction of stay, for example, if Mom calls for him to sit next to her with his homework and there for example. 120 minutes to sit. It hurts enough. Meaning not“in prison” punishment or even blows. The latter is not at all.)
Secondly, please make it clear that mutual respect must be given to each other in the family. You gracious to him, and he gracious to you, and say this in the family table, so that everyone is on a line.
If it doesn’t do anything, get a family therapy to talk. It’s about talking about it. Whether this is actually necessary is on another sheet.
How old is he?
I’m also the first of 3 and I have a lot of arguments with my younger sister.
Tell your parents and stay away from him.
How old are you? According to my experience, usually something is wrong in relation to the parents when siblings fight so much. Your parents have the duty to protect you, that’s their mission. If they don’t do this, you can contact the Youth Office or a youth counsellor. At worst, you’re gonna get out of there.
You have the right to first birth and therefore always right. He must subordinate himself and support you in your opinions and projects.
Such a quark! There is no “original law.”
Jihan boy what’s going on I’ve written you so often and you’re not answering everything well? I’m really worried
What do your parents say?
My parents try to give their best but more than trouble and talk about it they can not do..