My psychologist criticized me harshly and was very direct. How should I handle this?
It was my first time attending behavioral therapy, and it was, to say the least, very uncomfortable. I felt like I wasn't understood, and now, in retrospect, I'm struggling with whether what she said could be true.
I'm not a confrontational person, and when I tried to defend myself, she accused me of being a defensive reflex and of being narcissistic.
She said that if I didn't confess my real problems in my next session, then the sessions would be pointless and a waste of time.
Of course, you're missing the context. But strangely, it felt very fresh that it was pretty much the first time I'd ever been personally criticized. So, I actually thought she was cool.
Of course, you don't know the context, but I just wanted to ask how I should best deal with confrontational psychologists? I don't want to wait for another therapy appointment in case she doesn't want to treat me. Should I just accept the problems she's brought up?
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It doesn’t seem appropriate for the job. What are their reviews?
She needs to know how she’s dealing with you
It’s a good idea to look. The most liked comment is rather negative and complained about the lack of understanding, but all other comments were very positive and they could not understand the bad reviews.
Are you seriously expecting any internet troll to give you a 2nd opinion and to know it without the context, or do you just want to hear that you’re right?
My question has actually largely been directed at how to deal with confrontative psychologists. When I was inpatient treatment, it was far from so confrontative.
No one can say. If the psychologist is right, he’ll have to tell you what’s going on!
Therapy requires cooperation. She obviously asked you questions that you refused, especially your existing problems.
If that’s true, she’s right. Therapy isn’t that you’re talking to each other, talking to each other and you’re open and honest and really saying what’s pressing you.
Advice: Try to tell honestly and openly what’s up to you. Don’t have any secrets from her. Work with her.
Well. Such therapies usually do not give answers, but rather ask the right questions. I can’t judge whether the behaviour of her was right, not so early at all, but if you’re already wondering if what could be on her, then it would be a first step to think about it by the next time.
Otherwise, just talk and talk and talk. You can tell that this was unpleasant to you and you found it unfair, especially after you don’t know you so well.
Don’t take it, but take it… she lures you into a situation uninhabited for you, that can help you, just go on
“So I actually found her cool.”
… but that sounds positive in contrast to what you wrote in the beginning, it seems to fit for you
“if I mean my next sessiontrueDo not confess problems”
….Then tell her about your problem or do you have good reasons not to do this?
I guess there’s something true about it and she’s here to help you. Try to reflect! Otherwise I wish you all the best.