My mother is cheating on my father, how should I tell him?
If you plan to reply, please refrain from making comments like: "let it be their private matter" or "it's better to talk to your mother about it than your father" because I won't let it go.
So, about two months ago, my mom asked me how to create new folders in the gallery on my phone. I thought it was weird that she asked me that because she doesn't normally ask that kind of thing. Anyway, I showed it to her. I couldn't stop thinking about it, so a week later, I went to her phone and looked. I found nothing but a folder called "Private," but there was nothing unusual there, so I let it go. I was sure she had something to hide, so I looked again a week later, and there I found it: a nude photo of a strange man. I checked to see if it was maybe just downloaded from Google, so I went further into WhatsApp. There was a chat with this man she met from a game. That's when it came back to me: I knew him and knew who he was. They were sexting each other and exchanging nude photos.
(For your information, my mother is still married to my father and in a relationship)
I don't know what to do now. Should I talk to my father about it directly? But I don't know if I dare. I thought I'd write an anonymous letter, print it out so he doesn't recognize my handwriting, and put it in his backpack or something, hoping he notices it, reads it, and takes it seriously. I should have told him a long time ago, BUT, I have a five-year-old brother, and I don't know how he would cope with a breakup. So I'm asking for advice.
If they split up, we might even move to Austria (where her lover lives), as she keeps talking about moving there. Of course, she doesn't say so, but it's obvious she wants to go there because of this man.
So, how should I tell my father? By the way, I hope this makes my mother feel really guilty. That's the least she deserves for this terrible breach of trust!
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Your poor little brother. Your mother really doesn’t think. If she’s not happy with the man, she should tell him instead of fucking him. She’s very bad for you.
Talk to her and tell her to talk to her father, or you’ll do it.
First of all, thank you for answering me without criticizing me directly because I was on her phone. This is an idea that I will definitely consider, thank you.
Your mother should be personal to your father before she didn’t give it herself, that’s just stressmaking.
As a child, you’ve got to stay out. It’s none of your business.
That’s pretty hard, I’m sorry. Why don’t you talk to your mother about it as direct with your father? You could tell her to tell your father and if she doesn’t, you tell him. That’s how your parents can settle it. Believe me, separations of parents can be made (speak from experience)
Imagine you have to tell your parents.
You wouldn’t make yourself popular with both
Funny. Keeping out is not an option for you, not holding out either.
Then just make a meaningful suggestion.
No, that was a good self-criticism. Maybe something harshly formulated – but well recognized.
Yeah, it hit you pretty well, didn’t it?
I like to quote you:
I don’t want to interfere too. I don’t know the family conditions. Too much fear of not being accepted by both parents.
For the first time, there are different kinds of relationships: it could actually be that your father knows that and the two of them handle what you might not have to do: that’s why… you should never just fool around in the private stuff of your parents, you don’t want to know that at all, and you think you’re in compulsion now! Talk to your mother about seeing something and maybe a rational explanation.
I would also say no question.,but I suspect your parents would push you the separation into your shoes and I do not wish you that.
Of course, that’s not okay with your mother.
But I also wonder what makes you really better? You’re deliberately looking at her phone. You don’t. In theory, this is also available. You’ve made yourself attackable. Also respect is not available.
As I said, I don’t think I’m going well. However, you seem to think that you are a main character.
I h@sse people who pretend to know what you think. I don’t think I’m a “MaInChARaKtEr” would be stupid.
Why should I respect this Schla**e? Fi**t two types of the same time.
I don’t care if I made myself criminal, she’s my mother, and I’m not old enough for prison or social hours, or so nothing happens to me. Besides, I noticed that everyone who writes such a thing doesn’t matter to me, so why do you answer my question? Your opinion doesn’t intress me.
Your mother will not have a bad conscience and both will blame you for the separation indirectly or directly.
You don’t know the agreements between your parents at all, and you’re sniffing your mother in her phone. So you overrun so many limits that you will get really powerful trouble. Leave. It.
No I will not let it be
Like I said, it’s none of your business. You don’t even know if they have an open relationship.
Of course, it does if she goes out and sue must separate I have to decide which of both I want to live
Don’t worry about the kids.
If they had an open relationship, they should have mentioned it eventuel so that something like that would not happen
I don’t care, why I don’t interfere with your parents’ relationship. Look, that’s so easy.
So? You don’t
Have you ever considered that your father might know?
It would then no longer be strange if he had consent.
I’d only talk to your mother and tell her to confess to your father. If not, then you say it..
And she will be the scapegoat:)
So what? Better than with the conscience to live that her father is being betrayed.
That would be extortion.
This is not a decn problem but mine
That’s what everybody says. You can also listen to men or women when they are in a ‘relationship crisis’. We know that, no we all think the same.
But every human being is different. I’m always trying to reveal the truth, no matter what the consequence it has for me. I believe deeply and firmly in karma, at some point everything will come to light and the father may also know that the daughter knew it and is possibly even more disappointed.
But because man is basically stupid:)
Your own experiences and the result is always the same.
You’re not a man
No, that won’t happen.
Or: The father is grateful that his daughter told him this. I would never blame my daughter in this respect, but be grateful, even if it were hard,
The mother doesn’t care anyway. Because it was a conscious decision. The father gives himself a partial debt and then blame the daughter/son completely.
Logical conclusion: In theory one would say that the mother is guilty. But a man is usually irrational where the father will hate his child š
Conclusion: Both lost.
I don’t know if I should take such a question seriously on a new account…
So first: you’re doing a moral apostle here, but you’re snooping around in your phone – that’s not without.
That means everything’s just happened on the phone. You have no evidence that she’s cheating on your father in real life. Of course, it’s not good if she’s in a relationship and sends another nude image. But on the one hand, you don’t know how far she’s going.
And you don’t know if your father might even know. There are couples who lead an open relationship, in which is allowed to go alien.
Talk to your mother first.
It’s just none of your business. And cell phonework is the last! How can you have such a bad character?
Well, she’s got something to do. The mother’s pussying around and messing with the man.
What would you say if the father were going strange? Something else.
If the father was going strange, I would say the same thing. That’s one thing between the two. There is no public child to hang in – and no one else.
No.
Besides, it’s a crime to sniff around in the phone. It’s disrespectful and doesn’t make her better. And no the child has no influence on how the partnership between the two is.
What’s your problem?
I have no problem. The FS has one… a character.
I don’t think you’ve read correctly. It’s not about the neighbor, or the postman. It’s about your own parents, about the family, about the father who’s being betrayed. Your only concern is that she sniffs in her mother’s cell phone?
And the parents have no right to privacy?
Relationships (and their problems) go to IMMER only the two parties – nobody else!
Again – where is that?
These are facts, no opinion. Where does it say that I for am I?
Where did I talk about privacy?
But I realize you don’t even know what a quote is! Hope you’ll learn this at school!
You read my text. Lol was the intention that you missed zitate?
The mother pops around somewhere. Behave strange and the daughter wanted to know if anything is. If parents are allowed to do this with children, should the children with their parents also be allowed? Oh, it’s true with you that only the parents and the kids can’t.
Of course you do.
Please quote the appropriate place where I said that. I assume you know what a quote is.
Please quote the appropriate place where I said that. I assume you don’t even know what “private sphere” means.
There are various court judgments.
Then they would know that phonework is forbidden and read foreign chats… Again by law.
Mhhh
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^ Parents are not legally obliged to look into the children’s cell phone where you have the nonsense. Ohman.
Especially if you have a little idea of children, you don’t even need to worry that the child is sch… building and/or secrets from the parents that could endanger the child. Because the children are very well educated and self-confident and would say it to parents in case of emergency. Of course, the children should not be treated as if they have no rights.
Slowly – extra for you…
Parents are under certain circumstances obliged by law to look into their children’s cell phones.
I never said whether I am or against it.
I never talked about privacy.
hypocrisy is what you’re doing – just think about something and then say someone else would have said that…
She is the parents who are allowed to look into the children’s phones turned around presses them on the data protection. That’s all I can do.
You would do well to read some legal texts and judgments. Then you wouldn’t have to embarrass yourself.
I told you. Children are not important to you.
That’s disgusting when you put kids under the parents.
What a nonsense. š¤¦ Just because the child takes too important, parents do not have to be like that.
Parents still have an education job and are in the worst case responsible for what their child is doing with the mobile phone.
And this question also shows that the child is clearly too immature to take responsibility.
Parents will certainly also look through their smartphone.
Yes, the mother has a privacy. With whom she has sex, the child doesn’t care. It’s her life, her decision.
For me, people are characterless who spy on others and have not understood that every person has the right to own decisions – and to his own opinion. It’s extremely disgusting. I cannot respect such people either – who only feel good by putting others down.
You’re very similar to the FS.
No, you. For you, children are worthless who have nothing to report. It’s extremely disgusting.
That’s what you’ve noticed.
Like you, I respect 0.
Right – now you realize what stupid stuff you write.
Okay, that’ll be ridiculous.
This has nothing to do with data protection. š¤¦
You should also see parents as full people and not as unimportant adults.
Always this: parents have nothing to report and have to accept everything the children do. Mobile phone, petty, hang in everything, smart…
Check that parents are also people and not any items that have nothing to report and cannot have a private life!
āohhhh my mother Birds another, but NEIIINN (!) DATA PROTECTION, My mother has private poets …ā better? Welcome to Germany
So if she has nude pictures from another man and she makes sex chat, that has little to do with puberty.
You should also see children as full people and not as unimportant children. It's all about children when the mother fucks the dad.
Always this: children and youth have nothing to report and have to accept everything that parents do.
Search nonsense….
Check out that children are also people and not any items that have nothing to report. Boy.