My best friend is suddenly annoying me?
Please don't judge me for asking this question, I already feel like a bad friend 🙁
I have been friends with my best friend for years but suddenly she just annoys me so much, everything she does, and I don't even know why
Maybe it's because I'll be 15 soon and she's still 12, but we've gotten along really well since we were little. However, she's always really attached to me. In the morning on the bus she sits next to me and during EVERY break she comes to me and my other friends. Then she talks to me the whole time and I hardly have any time for my other friends, which is annoying because sometimes I'd rather talk to them. And she asks me the same things every day, which is also really annoying. She also says she doesn't like her class, but I think it would be better if she did more with them and I had some time alone with my other friends.
After school, she sits next to me on the bus again and always asks me if we want to meet up afterward. I used to like that, but I think it's enough that we see each other so often at school.
My parents sometimes talk badly about her and I don't know if that influences me in any way (even if subconsciously).
I still like her and don't want to hurt her, but sometimes I just wish I had more distance. How do I tell her this without hurting her? She didn't actually do anything bad, and I hate myself a little for it, so why don't I suddenly like her anymore even though everything was fine before?
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You shouldn’t feel bad about that. You’re at an age where a lot changes and you need space. Your girlfriend is still a child (in comparison) and can’t see/understand that. That’s both normal. In 15 years, the age difference will not play a role again, but in the next few years, 3 years will be very much. For both of you.
Unfortunately, you don’t have anything to talk to her. I want you to tell her you like her, but you need more time for you and your other friends. You would like to spend the breaks (more often) with your class and stay the afternoons alone (or whatever you do).
I wish you great success and all the best!
I guess you’re just gonna talk to her about it. Tell her you need free space, there are also other people. Besides, you’re 2, almost 3 years older when I read it right. The interests are already very different, I can imagine.
Well, it just sounds like she’s not your best friend. Maybe the age distance is too large, for example, it looks a little bit up to you while you’re looking for more contact with peers. This is also quite normal when you look at the example of sisters. The smaller one usually seeks closeness to the bigger ones, while the big one is blocking and prefers to do with friends of the same age. Anyway, I think it’s normal that it’s a little too much for you and you need a distance. But it would be important not to ignore or let your girlfriend go, but to communicate openly with her.
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Share it with her and ask for free space.
Then do something with her, she can cloth