Mentally at your limit?
I have a huge problem. For a few years now, I have found school to be really stressful, also because I keep struggling with nausea. And I'm slowly starting to think that this nausea is psychological. I'm not bad at school, but I often find myself in situations where I don't know what to do next. For example, I was scared of presenting my research paper (60 minutes), or of the class trip or important exams. I've mastered everything up to now, but since December I just can't take it anymore. I'm in 13th grade now and only have 2 months of lessons left. It's as if all the stress of these 13 years has been dumped on me all at once, and even the smallest stressful situations make me feel sick and give me extreme stomach pains. No medication helps because it's psychological (Iberogast, Buscopan, McP…). The problem is, the last semester I'm in at the moment only runs from February 1st to March 27th. Grading is suspended on March 20th. That's incredibly short. I know, in the past I would have said, "Easy, one month of stress. I can handle it." But that's not the case. All the exams that are coming up now, all the presentations and oral participation, plus the anxiety issues I've developed over the past two years—all of that has to fit into just under two months! And I can't even manage to be there for a whole week straight! On top of that, oral participation is difficult when you're trying to concentrate and not throw up all over the table. It's really awful. I feel nauseous all the time, my stomach aches constantly, and I get a fever every two days. I'm at my limit, but I can't take any time off now. And firstly, I can't get an appointment with a psychologist anytime soon, and secondly, they can't help me that quickly. I've already missed one exam, and there are only two make-up dates. Furthermore, I can't be graded in some subjects if I'm absent too often (for example, sports, where two absences are the absolute maximum, otherwise 0 points). If I get 0 points in one subject, I won't be allowed to take the Abitur exam. But I also don't see the point in throwing away all those years because of two tough months. After those two months, I'll immediately resume with the Abitur exams. Four days after the end, I have the first one, the day after the second one, and so it goes on… what should I do? I can't hold on any longer. But I have to somehow. Others have done it. What's wrong with me? Help.
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First of all, turn to a snack. Dried rice with vegetables nourishes you, but does not strain stomach and intestine so much. Besides, fruit, as far as you can. Bananas are always good. You need the sugar from the fruit to feed your brain. Whether you are wearing nuts or not, you have to try. And always chew good! A meal that takes less than a quarter of an hour has been strangled down. Take a clear time to eat, 30 minutes! Not next to read or pauken! Focus on good chewing. Listening relaxing music o.
Beverages: Only sweet teas and clear, sprudel-free water.
Then, you don’t have to go through this alone, are there no school social work at school? There is neither a drug nor simple advice nor the ultimate method to deal with learning stress. This must be worked out in conversation and solutions developed. Solutions must be accompanied. It’s not about psychotherapy, it’s about using the “Bordmittel” you have.
Because: You are in a tunnel view. Saying that doesn’t help you at all, but explains the situation. The more you can look out from the sinking where you just disappeared, the better you will master the situation again.
Oh, and is the “normal”: Unfortunately yes. And it’s a little type dependent, but don’t limit you in your ways. A state minister of Schleswig-Holstein has made it public that under stress he is better just “light” things and only drinks water.
I think you have a problem with the pressure from the upcoming tests. At least you read it between the lines. Maybe just because you’re not bad. There is also a certain expectation by teachers, parents and by yourself. You may also have a wish job for which a certain NC is required or you do not know what comes after it. Fear of ignorance because the usual everyday life is no longer there. All this probably plays a role in you
Hello 🙂
It sounds like you’re wearing an enormous load, and I’d like to tell you first: nothing wrong with you. Your body and your psyche just show you it’s too much. Your stress and nausea are serious warning signals. Perhaps this has been too much in recent years. This is not a sign of weakness – many pupils are doing this.
My advice would be:
Speak best with a trustee in school, such as teachers or school social workers. Often there are ways to reduce the pressure – for example by adjusting clauses, sometimes there is some room for manoeuvre 🙂 A conversation with your family doctor can also help to get short-term support for your body and your psyche. You don’t have to go through this alone, and it’s okay to find help.
If you want, I’ll be there for you. My name is Chantay, I am a social educator at Digital Streetwork Bayern and I support young people between 14-27 years of age anonymously, free and voluntary. If you need an open ear, please contact 🙂
Best regards,
Chantay of Digital Streetwork Bayern
Hi.
I know your stress too well.
I was in a psychiatric clinic for over a year because I didn’t manage to go to school. A good friend went like you, he got a panic attack at school two months before the end of his Abitur. Then he didn’t go any more and he didn’t get the Abitur.
This was super annoying for the first time, but now he repeats it.
I would recommend considering a psychiatric facility. You’ll probably have to discard the Abitur first. But it is important that you know that you are more important than the school.
As you do, you must have top priority, even (for the first time) the abitur suffers from it.
So, look for help!