Report from an elderly driver: Remorse?
Good evening,
Six weeks ago, I had an accident through no fault of my own. A very elderly driver failed to see me and crashed into my car. The police were called – partly because he initially tried to blame me and only admitted to the police that he simply hadn't seen me. He even tried to drive away in an unnoticed moment, "because nothing was wrong." According to his own appraiser, the damage to my car is €2,950.
He now claims to the insurance company that it was my fault.
The reason is probably that he's worried about losing his driver's license. The man is very old, has a serious heart condition, and is a very unsafe driver. I often notice him and he's also physically very weak; he can barely walk and takes strong medication (all known locally).
This whole story annoys me so much that I'm considering reporting him to the driver's license office – first, because I don't want him to cheat me (I don't need the money; it's a matter of principle that he's being so cheeky), and second, because I believe he's a danger to himself and others. I've spoken to the authorities, and they say it would be acceptable, and I don't think he's allowed to drive in his condition.
But I have a pang of conscience: If he doesn't pass the test, he'd lose his last link to the outside world in the rural area without a car and wouldn't be able to attend the retirement gatherings and church services he enjoys so much. He'd be confined to his house. His children live far away, his wife is in a nursing home; he drives there every day, so he'd simply not be able to. A life without a car would potentially be the end of him.
On the other hand, he smiles in my face and waves, but then tries to slap me on the back – I'd like to "get one over on him." A lawyer friend of mine is also involved, who would act on my behalf.
Are my pangs of conscience justified? But I don't see the point in being kind and humane to someone who doesn't wish me well. He just thinks I'm the nice young guy he's putting in his pocket. I'm not someone who wants to hurt others, but I think he'll learn no differently, and at almost 90, that should be it.
Thanks & greetings!
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In short and short: if someone who is barely getting anything due to the age should not drive a car anymore in the interest of all. If a message can help, do it
First of all, I don’t think the Lord loses his driver’s license just because you report it. That’s what other reviewers look at, maybe within a MPU – and they decide not you. But they probably don’t work by themselves – on an anstup on your part, but probably still.
A few weeks ago, your car hit: angry, but only sheet metal. Next week he might go over a child – and then everyone wonders why there hasn’t even done anything before, where it is already known that the Lord can’t get that right with the car. Do you really have to wait so long and look away knowingly until a child meets?
The argument “old, in the country = without a driver’s license and car is no longer coming out of the apartment ” does not draw (at least with me): who has the money for a car, including maintenance, fuel, inspection,… and this spending package is now suddenly and in the future flat – for the money saved there, including revenues from the sale of the car, said Lord can be quite much and often let go through the area with a taxi.
So, I wouldn’t let the thing go in the sand, but actually make a message at the responsible place.
I was told exactly. There was also the indication that they want my name and address as well as a justification so that it doesn’t sound like anonymous denuncing – I like to do because I don’t want to denounce the old man. I don’t like to hurt people unless they don’t mean it well with me.
The damage was a waste that could have been regulated by itself, and I am not dependent on the money; how the expert comes to 2950 euros, I’m sick of it. I’d even donate something from the money. But since he was really bad at the accident and just wanted to drive away, I already punished him with the police. I just wanted to wipe him out after the motto – not with me. He then also really was afraid because I am, among other things, Schöffe and in a party or apparently “a respected citizen”. He was sitting there crying. I think that was also related to the fact that he wanted to go to his wife’s home and couldn’t… I was sorry, but on the other hand, he started, and now he’s still three.
You’re objectively right.
I might be too kind, my friend was right.
By the way, the old man had a number of small accidents, so the car also runs on the woman who lives in the home – that’s what’s going on.
In any case, report him, because he is a danger to everyone! It would have to be mandatory for any exchangeability tests from a certain age, because the reactivity etc. is definitely worse at the age!
Fuck your conscience. The man is a danger to all those who stop in road traffic, once overlooked the zebra strips and that was. Someone who’s lying, three-thing and indelible must be exemplified. Do the right thing for everyone. Report to him if he just wanted to drive away with a little material damage, imagine what he would do in a physical accident.
Is he – he was also very afraid of the accident and did not want police.
He wanted to drive away in an unnoticed moment, a neighbor kept him.
That’s not your problem, that’s his conscience. You know, just as well as all the others, this man is an enormous danger. Now you have the possibility of jemaden who is so indisputable. I can only talk about myself, but I’d report to him in case. I’m always out for deescalation, but here I’m just getting rid of rags. You’ll get a lot more psy problems when someone drives Platt.
My friend said I was too kind.
But basically you’re both right.
It’s not just about you – someone like that is a threat to everyone. With all due respect for the old man and his problems: If he overlooks a child the next time, you will never be able to forgive him not to report him.
Finally, you don’t decide if he loses his driver’s license, but the authority. If she says he’s no longer able to carry a car safe, that’s a good reason.
And apart from that, you don’t have to take into account anyone trying to piss you off.
My friend also said I was too kind.
The old man had a number of small accidents, so the car also runs on the woman who lives in the home – that’s what’s going on.
As I said, if a child dies at the end, goodness quickly becomes an omission with deadly outcome…
Finally, you only give the state the opportunity to put a real risk, where: it actually exists. If she exists, you don’t have to judge.
I don’t even look away at a robbery because I’m sorry for the perpetrator who might finance his addiction.
That’s exactly what her objection was.
You’re both right, I guess I’m going through it. It’s not up to me if he can’t drive anymore. He could have been honest.
I don’t have any conscience.
Man has a Cars overlooked. How does he then rule out that he overlooks a cyclist or a pedestrian? If he overlooks someone like this, there’s not only a metal damage, but maybe a dead one.
Yeah, that’s stupid if he doesn’t get from A to B. But is his personal freedom of movement more important than human life?
This has nothing to do with “wishing out” but simply with sense of responsibility.
For the money that the Lord saves if he no longer has to entertain a car, you can drive a lot by taxi or by car communities.
Can you take a look at what your conscience says when he’s looking over a child next.
That’s what I thought.
I’m old, but not very old.
If I were to blame for an accident because I missed a car – or even much worse a pedestrian – I’d miss out on driving the car right away.
That he is less mobile in rural areas without a car cannot be your problem. He has to organize himself differently.
there are other transportation options as another endangering car to drive, even and just in the country!