My 7-year-old cousin doesn't respect anyone!?
Hey,
I'm currently in Turkey with my family. Everything's fine, except for my cousin. On the very first day she came to visit us, she started hitting me, breathing on me, pulling my hair, taking my cell phone (it wouldn't have been a big deal, but she texts/calls everyone, including teachers), and touching me in awkward places. Yes, she's a child and may not understand that it's wrong, but I've been telling her to stop every day for three weeks now, and if I raise my voice, my mother gets in trouble. My cousin also hits me very hard.
Since yesterday and today, everything has been too much for me. I don't like it when people touch my face, at least not when the person touching me hasn't washed their hands. Yesterday, my cousin, my brother, and my great-cousin went into my grandma's garden, and she apparently touched a snail and "something dry that looked like poop" and covered my mouth. I thought it was funny, but then she said she had "touched shit." When my brother confirmed this and also said she hadn't washed her hands, I almost burst into tears and told her to let go and went to wash my face.
Today she took her new baby cat to my grandma's. I loved it and even petted it a bit, but I'm the kind of person who always washes my hands afterward. After I washed my hands and lay down because it was very warm, my cousin repeatedly tried to put the cat in my hand or near me. I didn't want that at the time, and I told her so several times.
After a while, the cat stopped next to me so that its fur was not only on my face, but also on my lips. I told it to stop and went into the bathroom to wash my face. Then it repeatedly touched my face without washing its hands, which caused me to raise my voice again because talking to it normally wasn't helping. I got into trouble for yelling at it.
She did it repeatedly and it completely ruined my mood. When my grandma scolded her, my cousin told my grandma to be quiet.
My biggest problem here is that I've repeatedly said no. I wouldn't have minded if she touched my hands, arms, clothes, or even my hair without washing her hands, but she just doesn't understand the word "no." Whether it's touching various parts of my body, texting people, or hitting me.
If I raise my voice in any way/do it back, I get yelled at and my aunt doesn't do anything.
After everything, she hugs me as if nothing had happened, and if I ignore her or send her away, my mother scolds me.
I'm starting to worry about her because she only does what she wants. What should I do? What can I do?
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but you always go to her, depending on how you are. (I found it funny – and with the cat, I wouldn’t have been kind at all.
So your cousin is a spoiled word, and I wouldn’t discuss with the word, but IGNORED. But complete.
I suggest you try this for a few days. As an alternative, write a letter to your aunt, how you feel it or better to your mother.
The text here would be right… you don’t have to change much.
You’re a little oversensitive, but the other one here, what you’re experiencing with the kiss, I’m really bad
I’d talk to your mother a clear word that you don’t see why your cousin isn’t properly educated, disregarding borders of other people so much, and if you’re pointing to it, you should be evil. Because you said no to her often enough before.
And if she continues repeatedly, you will continue to sneak with her, because that behavior is massively disturbed and you will not tolerate it to you.
Talk to parents.
Would also speak to my AND to their parents that this is not possible. She has to accept your limits and I think at her age you should be able to understand and respect a no. She is already able to contact people with your phone.
Make her a very clear statement and talk to her parents.
And if nothing changes, put yourself in the next plane and fly home.
Stand to your limits. If you say no, your cousin has to stick to it. Hold her hands before she touches you. Better pull the limits before it exceeds the actual.
Your phone will stay with you and she won’t get it in her hand. Take it off, ask it back and if she doesn’t pull it out, take it off her.
Honestly, I wouldn’t care how much my mother would sneak with me. Eggs 7 years old have to understand. Take your will and take you out of the situation. I’d just avoid your cousin in Zwish and leave it to the left.
I think you have a major problem with bacteria and germs.
And if so, how does this answer my question now?
You should look for a therapist for your problem, then you wouldn’t have the problems with permanent hand washing, touching etc. It already dominates you and leads to problems.
Also 😘
Look forward to your care. Thanks for that!
Instead of worrying so many to make me, I’d visit a doctor at your place because of your stroke signs.