My father won't let us go on vacation?
Hey guys, I'm from Pakistan. I've only been there once since I was born, and I haven't been back for 14 years. My grandfather died, and my father wouldn't let my mother and me go to Pakistan even then. My grandfather always wanted me to see him. He said to me, "Rahim, do you want to come when I die? Come and visit me just once." I said yes, but what he didn't know was that I'll never see him in his lifetime. That makes me feel really guilty. My father's grandma and grandpa just won't let us go there, and my father says to my mother, "If you want to go, then do it without the children." My
My mother and father are stressed about this. But what can I do so that I can still see my grandmother in her life? My father is putting a lot of pressure on my mother and me; he hasn't spoken to her for a month. The thing is, my mother and my siblings have nowhere else to go because my father is the only one who earns money, and his salary will never be enough if we live without him.
Mother only has a Pakistani degree because of this
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Hi.
I’m sorry to hear that you and your family have difficulty visiting your grandfather in Pakistan, and that your father is stressing you and your mother. It is important that you try to talk to your father and share your wishes and concerns regarding the trip to Pakistan and the meeting with your grandmother. Maybe you can tell him how important it is for you to still see your grandfather and give him the opportunity to say goodbye.
If your father remains stubborn and doesn’t leave you and your mother on vacation to Pakistan, there may be other ways to see your grandmother. You might try to call her or make a video chat connection to her to at least conduct a conversation with her and tell her you think about her and miss her. Maybe you could send letters or little gifts to show her you think of her.
It is also important that you take care of your own health and well-being as you deal with this difficult situation. Talk to friends or family members about your feelings and seek assistance from a therapist or consultant.
but thank you so easy it is not the ding is half where he has stumbled he has given his own children and my father is after that to have and says if you don’t get it then I will leave you and so much beforemir he says it I just don’t know further I mean tante sister of my mother are half the who try but behind it is the power of my father because you can’t do what you want
I’m sorry to hear the situation is complicated. It sounds like the conflict in your family is very burdensome for you. It is important that you talk to someone you trust, for example a family member, a friend or a professional consultant to receive advice and support. If your father threatens or exercises violence, you should contact a police department or a local organization that provides assistance to victims of domestic violence. Remember that you are not alone and there is help and support.
Thank you
Can you afford it?
Pakistan is becoming a quite cultural shock 🙂 Where are you going when I can ask. I wouldn’t start with Lahore.
Do you need a visa? It’s been a long time for two years. Partly over 3 months and more. There are also other options.
You can only stand up against the family or let yourself down. There are no more options. They’ll take it long or never forgive you. This is the culture. If that’s really important to you, do it!
The mother of my mother is there and we want to go to visit with a German passport it goes fast or
You have to look at the official page. Lastly, it was almost 6 months of processing time.