ByKauraus
Ein Mitschüler hat zu ihm gesagt “du bist schwul” und “deine Mutter stinkt”. Also schwere Beleidigungen. Er hat mir das erzählt und weiß sich nicht zu wehren. Was soll ich als Mutter tun?
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Loading...Da fahr ich im Taxibus 3 Personen. Oma ( recht jung , 40 – 50 ), Mutter in meinem Alter und etwa 5 jährige Tochter auf dem Kindersitz. Haben wohl alle früh Kinder gekriegt .. warum hat das Kind Kontakt zur Oma schon in dem Alter ? Und wo ist der Mann und Opa ?…
Hallo, ich bin seit 20 Jahren verheiratet und seit anderthalb Jahren hat mein Mann sich in eine chinesische Geschäftspartnerin verguckt. Ich habe jetzt einiges rausbekommen. Er war die letzten drei Monate fünf mal in China mit ihr beruflich unterwegs und ich habe gehört, dass er zu ihr sagte, “ich vermisse dich und ich liebe dich”….
Oder euch auf den Po klappst wenn eure Mutter aus dem Haus ist
Hallo zusammen, ich weiß nicht wie ich die Frage stellen soll deshalb erkläre ich die Situation. Meine „Schwägerin“ ist die verantwortungsloseste Person die man sich vorstellen kann. Von Tiermisshandlungen (Hund hungern und tagelang alleine lassen) bis zu einer Ehe mit einem gewalttätigen Mann schließen wollen bzw diesen dann zum neuen Vater ihres Sohnes zu machen….
also ich habe eine angststörung und kann deswegen nicht alles machen aber werde regelmäßig dafür bestraft zb. raus gehen wird mir dann verboten, treffen, konzerte, reisen alles wurde mir schon verboten und somit bestraft für eine sache für die ich nichts kann, was kann ich machen?
Hallo wir haben Nachbarn die sehr „asozial“ sind und zu dem sich wirklich eigentlich jeden Tag „streiten“ und das ist noch nett gesagt der Vater schreit es werden Dinge geschmissen die Mutter schreit, weint, die Kinder weinen und Die Frau hat auch schon mal gesagt das er sie geschlagen hat, nun haben wir bereits 3…
Explain to your abode what purpose an insult has. The one who insults wants the other to feel bad and, above all, that he also ZEIGT, by crying, for example, or even reacting with counterpokens. Because that proves that the insult has hit. The only sensible reaction is therefore the IGNORIEREN and not the “Sich-wehren”.
This does not work, it only provokes the mobbers to proceed more and more vigorously.
It is best to show no weakness and “disst” back, which intimidates the mobbers.
From my own experience I know that a “thick skin” and language is helpful here.
I couldn’t beat everyone who had annoyed me and then I was always evil because the previous happening wasn’t as obvious as my freaking out.
You should teach your son to react “cool” here, examples.
You don’t have to close others from you.
Is that what you’re doing?
Are you telling me about your family or your dream?
If I had your problems, I would be so stupid.
What’s wrong with the oak when the sow scrubs on her.
If you want to pick one up, I can give you the phone number.
With me, the verbal comments have helped more than several beats.
If you really want to help your child, nothing!
He’s not a little kid anymore!
If you defend him as a mother because of such a laplana – yes, that is a laplana – then you make him a goddess of his classmates and a guaranteed target for further attacks.
You can only try to get him out of this insult. Then they stop.
We helped very well: “The dogs bark, the caravan continues” or if you want to try Goethe:
“What cares the strong oak when the bristle cattle (the pig) wake up”
Maybe call the parents of the kids who say that to him. I don’t know if you’re in the 6th. You can still do that, so small you are no longer. And the older you get, the less the mother can interfere. Otherwise, I’d just tell him how he can best fight or talk to the class teacher.
Honestly, that’s the normal umgangston
I don’t know what this is supposed to be the normal Umganton between men, but I say so myself with my best friend I’m talking like that (I’m not saying anything about the mother at all)
What can you do about it?
actually nothing to go to the teacher gets a reference and then what
do you think that
you just have to wait until the Puperty is over
Your son has entrusted you with the burden on him. A sign for your good relationship, not one that you have to leave as a mother immediately to protect him.
He learns to deal with it through such speeches. Tell him to listen to this, not show any reaction, then the children turn to another and try it here.
Your son has to learn now that he is allowed to report everything to you, then he is better, but he himself has to deal with his affairs.
Make sure he can practice beautiful hobbies, find friends here, use his spare time, cares for his self-care. Family can support here and make him so strong for daily encounters.
Tell him “A Ottoman shackle has always done miracles.” After that, they are re-used and go together to eat an “Osmanische Drehspießkartonage” (Dönerbox).
Hello Kauraus,
This is a great opportunity that you together with him can consider how he can react that it doesn’t feel bad anymore.
The high art is not to be challenged and, for example, to give a ready-to-be response.
He shall practice to defend himself with words, Other to become aggressive.
e.g.
Best so that it’s funny….
and if he doesn’t mind, he can react like this:
Rarely laugh and ironically say: Yes, it’s clear
Talk to teachers or parents about the young one.
Just talk to the teacher or just ignore it.
You should support him in how he can get along with such stupid statements!
Be it by ignoring, distancing within or learning not to be provoked. If he’s more confident, he won’t be “vicious” as fast as he does.
Nothing. Wouldn’t let me down at such a level.
Well, the kids can be really brutal. Only if your child has a strong self-awareness, it can put these insults away well. The child should understand that this has nothing to do with him, but with problems that have insulting children. They want to rise. Basically, the weak.
Talk to him how to react.
Since he’s 6 I’d tell him that if he gets chewed the next time he’s supposed to blow up with me also helped ignoring bring nix
God…
teach your son how he verbally commits himself to war – it is not as hard to educate a child to a self-confident person.
Mommy doesn’t have to judge everything!
in school, let him tell you the face
50 years ago, he wouldn’t have dared. Today, six-toners are absolutely able to say something to a strange adult.
wait
I’m just saying. You have to expect this today. An educated respect for adults is a discontinued model.
In the meantime, every child’s disease is already an insult.