Mein Kind hat mir gerade eine Backpfeife gegeben. Was soll ich tun?
Ich bin gerade extrem schockiert. Mein Kind 8 Jahre hat mir gerade eine Backpfeife gegeben. Es ging um die Medienzeit..sie wollte verlängern, ich sagte nein. Es schaukelte sich hoch, ich wollte sie dann ins Zimmer schicken zum beruhigen.
Ich möchte dazu sagen, dies ist noch nie auch nur annähernd passiert. Normalerweise geht es allen Recht normal an..sie ist mal sauer, ich bin mal sauer. Sie stapft motzig davon, beruhigt sich und gut ist.
Nun bin ich echt überfordert. Was würdet ihr machen in so einer Situation?
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Remove all electronic devices and this for at least 1 week, without exception.
Then wait for the apology and then have a very serious conversation.
If you’re not going to have lost
After both sides calmed down, I would go to her and look for the conversation. Tell her quite openly but also objectively how you feel and explain your actions. Then let her explain how she felt and now feels. Then you can talk about how you want to deal with it next time
Depending on the course of the conversation and your general education, you can, of course, express a consequence.
In another case, I would do that and I did, but here, I think I’m too shocked. You always think that never happens to me, just in other families.
Wait till she calmed down – and you calmed down too
And then talk to her about it.
Why did she react like that? Did she get scared?
Please take her seriously and listen to her.
You have to be strict. It can’t happen. And that alone, I said no, she wanted to, and then it shook up. If I say “no” as a parent, there’s nothing going on.
That’s different. She doesn’t have to find all the rules super and let her talk. Then it’s up to us to be consistent and the media time is fixed. There’s no more.
I’d grab it and say that it’s not possible and the media time and all the other privileges are completely deleted when something happens again.
My mother would have stolen my ass and put me in bed. I’d probably have got a TV ban and house arrest for weeks. As I know my mother, she would have distributed ears more often without reason.
She would have felt the mistake for a long time…
I wouldn’t have dared that.
I was also beaten and such a mother I am not thank God. And it didn’t help me either. I just learned not to get caught. But I didn’t take prohibitions completely.
Some consequence you should not take your daughter’s behavior into normality.
If she’s in a youthful age, she’s really hit because it’s always been that way. Then you don’t have to complain.
I’m sorry you had a heavy childhood. Feel yourself.
Thank you, but that’s been a long time and I survived. Finally, as an adult, one has the possibility to break contact with his parents.
Thank you
I’m glad to hear you’re okay now.
Whatever you do, be consistent. Media time can be anything. Just forbid and possibly take away.
We can choose them. There is an hour of media time a day. Play any TV or on the tablet or Wii.
Sounds like you have several kids, right? It is important then that the others who do not work that way.
It’s important that you go through this when you announce something. Just saying and then not doing is not a good idea. Even if she apologises and she’s sorry for you.
If it were my child, then I would have shyed her for that, a one that no longer forgets so fast. She deserved that, and I would have regretted her. She’s no longer a baby doing something unconscious. Honestly, how far did we come in the anti-authoritarian crap today that we let ourselves be beaten by our own children and then stand helplessly and don’t know what to do. I can’t believe… If she hurts you, she must feel how it feels. Bet, that’s not a topic after that?
And this is an adult way to deal with it. This shows your pure helplessness and that punch is fine.
This is the completely wrong way and not punishable. An adult who beats a child is pathetic and I would see that I would intervene immediately and call the police. This attitude is not at all. It’s no wonder that so many adults are so low-feeling and that’s what they’re considering.
The consequences have to be followed and have already been made clear. But strike back, no. I’m the adults and not a little child anymore.
Limit the media time to 0 until the child has regained.
Definitely.
And let the child apologize.
Lock them into your room today (pictured)
She has to get out for dinner, she can’t do that in the room.