Mein 20 Jähriger Sohn will ausziehen zu seiner Freundin deren Eltern . Wie kann ich damit umgehen?
Mein 20 Jähriger Sohn möchte zu den Eltern seiner Freundin ziehen. Er befindet sich noch ein halbes Jahr in der Ausbildung. Mein Mann und ich wollen unser Haus verkaufen, und wollen 100 Kilometer entfernt ein neues bauen. Mein Sohn möchte nicht mit uns ziehen, obwohl er nach der Ausbildung einen neue Firma suchen möchte. Er sagte dann sieht er seine Freundin nicht mehr und müsste am Wochenende 100 Kilometer fahren. Ich bin so traurig und weiß nicht wie ich das sehen soll?
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Find yourself out. Until your house’s finished, he’ll probably get together with the girlfriend. Even without their parents.
His girlfriend is still in training for two years. And as long as our house is not finished, we want to take a 2 room apartment. Because my husband is still working abroad. I’ll go back and forth with him. And then I’ll swing. Stay with my husband for 6 weeks and come back to the 2 room apartment. She could use my son with his girlfriend. I just thought my son would go to the new house. At least until his girlfriend finished her training
3 adults in a 2 bedroom apartment? Doesn’t sound very tingling. Let go of your adult son.
I can understand you. But it’s probably gonna be easier for you if he doesn’t even move in than if he’s moving out. A real new beginning to two then.
Even 4 adults. The father will not live permanently abroad, just because he works there. He’s got a vacation too and he’s home.
Rejoice for your son to take another step towards adult life and become even more independent. You can still make regular calls. Even by video call. The technology today makes it possible.
And 100 km is not from the world either. I used to drive back to work daily (51 km distance). You can still see yourself regularly in Natura. I live 380 km away from my parents and see them regularly.
That children will be pulled out of the parental nest is quite normal.
Yeah, he’ll take off someday. But why does he have to move to his girlfriend’s parents? He could also live in our temporary 2 room apartment with his girlfriend
Please learn to separate yourself from the psychic navel cord still on you to your son! I think that the distance will do you very well.
One of them has to move away. Either your son or his girlfriend. This decision, however, is the only and only thing of the two and they have decided that the son will go to the girlfriend and not vice versa.
Then don’t sell your house. Problem solved!
Our house is now worth more and we can build a new one. Especially as we want to move towards the Baltic Sea. And 100 kilometers is no distance. My son can also move with his girlfriend to the temporary 2 room apartment. Because my husband works abroad and I will sometimes get courage to go abroad and also return to the 2 room apartment. Therefore my question why must my son move to the friend of their parents
Uii! 2 rooms apartment for three people. Well, I’d refuse. Can understand your son. He’s grown-up enough and you should learn to get it clear
Because he wants it quite obvious. Why do you have to build a new house?
God. That’s extremely hard. Can the son understand this and his decision. That makes no sense
Even for four people. Even the father will come back once and not live permanently abroad. He also has a vacation from his work.
And then she expects her adult son and his girlfriend to share a 2 room apartment with her. Which 20-year-old wants this.
If you make the bill without the host…
You made your decision over the head of your son. Apparently to ask for SEINEN plans for the future.
The girlfriend is in training and certainly does not have the means to move from now on to an apartment with him.
If their parents have enough room in the house, why not move to her. It is obvious and foreseeable until the end of its training.
Your plan with the two room apartment is said to be absolutely bullshit.
You don’t really think he’s squeezing himself into a two-room apartment together with a friend, you and possibly a father? Not really. Not really.
I can understand that it is sometimes shocking when the children grow up “so suddenly” and stand on their own legs and also have their own opinions and assert them to their parents;-)
You come with the argument that he can drive the 100 km to the girlfriend. The same also applies to you to visit him 😉
For him a new period of self-employment begins. For you a new stage of life to two as a couple without a parent role
I’m leaving. So you’re the triggers of the problem.
Your son – who is no more than 5 – just want to stay in his usual environment and with his girlfriend. That would make my son the same and I would find it strange if it were different.
That the question was sorted into “children’s education”, by the way, says a lot…
Sounds as hard as it sounds, but you have to learn to come up with it!
He is full-year and may make his own decisions. And it’s also where he wants to live. He made his decision. And you have to accept that. He can’t hang on your rock cypfel for a lifetime. And that doesn’t mean you’ll never see each other again. Only that you will do it less than before. What might be good for you, as it sounds like you could just let go hard that he’s grown up and old enough.
I can understand you. But he’s over 20 and has to start his life now
short and short with 20 your son is old enough to take his life into his hand
Your son is grown up, you should be happy if he wants to stand on his own legs
So let him go and don’t clamp
This is the course of life.
so you have to realize that your son wants your own life.
that your son doesn’t want to get rid of his pearl so much.
Look for a psychiatrist if you don’t understand.
Did God know long enough that your son will go his own ways.
Basically, you’re just jealous that he’ll live with the mother-in-laws.
My son has a warm relationship with his mother-in-laws. That’s nice for everyone!
Your son has been full-year for two years.
You have to learn to let go! Your son isn’t out of the world.