Man keeps taking drugs?
Hello, my husband had about
He had a serious drug problem for four years. At one point, he was taking speed every day and nearly destroyed our family. He then got himself out of it and stopped taking it. He avoided almost all of his "friends." But he kept relapsing.
I warn him every time before something happens.
This weekend, even though I told him three times that I was afraid he'd do it again because he had to play techno music with these people in a club, of course he did it again. Every time, it's the same old story. I'm not interested in any of this; I told him clearly before we got married that I abhor drugs. Do you think it will ever get better? I'm so sick of constantly being confronted with this, and with these people talking such crap, that I can hardly stand it.
I'm starting to feel like it's all pointless. We have two kids, a business, and a house… it's difficult… I don't know how to handle it anymore. Does this ever make sense, or can it get better?
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You shouldn’t primarily see in your husband a “wrecker” who is punished.
A partner who needs help.
From such a relapse into the drugs you can conclude an over-recovery situation.
Consider whether and how the stress level can be lowered.
Drugs aren’t taken out of overthrow. Sorry, it’s not an attack, but mostly you take it because your own life is not beautiful and you want something else than it is up to.
But Lowsugar is right, he’s overwhelmed. We have built a house within a year (self) by the way a company in which he also works safely 50 hours a week. However, I have so much to do myself that I can’t help him anymore and also don’t want to. I work in our company, have the complete household (200m2 house), our children, mental load, a relative to whom I look, and by the way, alone, and I do not take drugs or drink alcohol. He apparently finds no other valve 🤷 ♀️ ♀️ ♀️
People with a real life experience look very different. END
Yes, we have all built this together and done it. Of course, it is stressful but not so stressful that you have to resort to drugs. We would actually have a super life if not from time to time, he says again and again 🤷 ♀️. He told me that in his youth he had problems with it – I think who once this stuff is consumed will never get rid of the urge 🤷 ♀️ but we also have no debt pressure or anything else. We cannot be the problem either, as he repeatedly emphasises how important we are to him. Sometimes I think there are two personalities 🤪
I’ll reject your aggressive far superior crap. I don’t give up with such people.
aha… even if you and the questioner see that differently: drugs are not taken out of overburden.
he wants to be overwhelmed anyway
he knows that this isn’t going with family, but still does it
and he knows that he only takes drugs if you’re not happy or everything else has been introduced
Taking drugs is a body language, it’s starting at the tipping. If you really had experience, you would know that
Thank you for your approval.
Anyone who manages to set up a company to expand a number of years despite all the crises, to build a house, to come to women and children is not a fool and no lazy. But such a stress program can absorb all forces and thus it can also run worse in the company. It may be that there the debts accumulate. Private debt for the house and the maintenance for the family. The fears of divorce, the recklessness… There are drugs nearby.
It shall therefore apply: To put the overall situation open on the table – maybe there are solutions. Maybe close a business field, maybe sell the house and live again by rent or with parents etc.
Hello!
There is a self-help community for drug addicts: http://www.naranon.de/
I advise you to contact professionals. Professional advice is also available for people with problematic or even sick drug use. Look here: https://mindzone.info/beratung/
Good luck!
It can only be better if he wants it himself. I know what I’m talking about
I would recommend an outpatient therapy as well as a visit to a self-help group.
Yes he wants it himself or he used to be properly dependent. That’s not the case anymore. He was with the psychologist and sat har 0 helped.. He then found the way out of it himself. Nevertheless he takes it 2-3x a year ..
You’ll excuse him in every second sentence. No wonder he doesn’t see any need to give up.
Where do I apologize? I’m just telling the facts that he’s done it on his own, with a sense of iron will.
Obviously you already know what to expect from him. He will only let this happen if he is more important to the human relationship when he weighs between woman, family and drugs.
The fact that he is taking drugs even though he has reached the usual standard targets is quite worrying
Take him out. He won’t change. If he really wanted to be clean, he would have taken a withdrawal and would avoid such events. Instead, he always apologizes. Severe, it won’t be better.
A bucket of water would have been just as useful. Such a person is not married.
He didn’t have these problems. This was just a coincidence, and I want to make it clear that he knew that too.