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Hello everyone,
I have a concern: I'm doing an apprenticeship and I often ask myself why the three people with me in the office always overlook me, or rather I feel like the fourth wheel. When they go out during the break, I'm not asked if I want to go with them, etc. However, one person from this two or three constellation sometimes tries to contact me because I'm actually really cool with them and we knew each other from the year before. But I just can't understand why it's like this now. I once asked a girl if I felt left out and she was surprised… and she said it was all fine, at some point she even helped me carry something down or something. But somehow these people end up back in their group dynamic, which I'm not a part of.
I never know whether I'm dealing with dishonest people. On the one hand, they help me when I ask them about school things or something, but on the other hand, they keep to themselves. If I join in the conversation, they talk to me, but then they're so dismissive, which only comes from this girl, who's behaving in a completely contradictory way.
Sometimes I wonder if it's just me and I'm the problem.
What do you think about this?
Can you help me
How can you manage that it doesn't bother you so much when you're not part of it and somehow you fall into self-pity
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Well, I would try more with them to talk and joa wsl know each other for a long time, try to be nice to see you as an enrichment. You don’t have to be best friends with your colleagues, you’re sure you have other people.
Well, that can happen to you everywhere… whether in a new class, school or new workplace… There are always people for whom one is under their level…because you don’t sit together in the smoking room…
And then rumors are spun… Either you get used to it or change the company.
Or you need to take some acceptance samples and eventually it might click and you’re part of it…
The Marines are such rituals that you have to do to belong… About which to keep silent.
This has to come out of you; From outside you can say for a long time “fall not in self-pity; Don’t fuck around!” If you have the feeling that if you don’t get anything from you, then bring yourself a “with all violence” so to speak! when they push you at some point it’s kind of official and you can ask why they do that.
But why with all violence? Is it really sensible to enforce socialization? The point is that this impression only comes to me with this girl. And no matter what I’ve done. The conversation with her looked for or something. I said to her when I was with you in the room ” boarding school” and we zoomed, just after that she changed so much. Maybe she’s seen something from me that’s against her. But then again it helps me again and we also talked and then it’s like that again, I’m starting to talk and feel something wrong with her.
In this case, you’ve already tried everything and shouldn’t overload your contact! Just take it so that she doesn’t want any closer contact with you! This is better than provoking them and experiencing even more rejection from them!
Maybe they’re a long-standing group, and you’re not interested in them.