Is it possible that everyone who is bullied deals with it differently?
Unfortunately, some later tend to want control and power over many things. They're a know-it-all, wanting to have the say = wanting to be heard. If things don't go their way, they get offended quickly. They can become arrogant when differences of opinion arise. Sometimes you express yourself completely neutrally, but as soon as the former bullied person doesn't understand something, they immediately see it as an attack or a threat. Because instead of asking neutrally what you mean, you raise your eyebrows, look serious, and ask ("What?").
instead of (excuse me/ I don't understand what you mean/ can you explain it to me in more detail so that I can understand it? / Can you explain it better? / I can't understand you acoustically.)
You could have asked. But then you see that there's definitely trauma involved. Nevertheless, you can act as if you had nothing to do with the incident and never met the former bullied person, since you didn't even know them back then. You only knew them from work as adults. But you never went to the same school together.
Some suffer from anxiety disorders and are introverted, want to be alone. Everyone processes things differently. Is there anything to this? Especially that they later become assholes to those around them, whether at work or in their private life. They want to be the center of attention, want everything to go their way and want to be in charge. They are overly centric and think the world revolves around them. They are unfair and don't really think about other people, they are jealous of people who have more than them. But as soon as you confront them about why they are unfriendly and subordinate and belittling others, you are told that you are stupid and that it is not true. The former bullied person did nothing for themselves. Why would the former bullied person do that if they were the one being bullied? That makes no sense at all… So, so to speak, the former bullied person is showing my current realization that this behavior is unfair and assholes.
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Yes, everyone who has been abused or suffered psychological pain on other doctors processes this differently. Some of them can’t be noticed, while others fall into deep depression, or do things I don’t want to explain.
What exactly, then becomes out of the person, then depends both on it itself and the environment during the processing process.
From the bullyed person, everything can become in principle. An optimist, ass, a depressive wreck (…)
All the things you’ve listed hit me too (although stronger, sometimes weaker), but I know that’s not the case with others. So yes, everyone does it differently
You know what I mean? You can only be ashamed of someone if the opposite was also assaulted. But not if the counterpart didn’t say or say anything bad and you didn’t understand. You can ask for normal.
There is therefore no reason to raise the eyebrow, look arrogant facial expression & seriously and ask this aggressive “waaaas”. That doesn’t justify what happened at that time or anything else. You should see and process this. Or get to know the human being better to judge. Not all have a bad thing. At the same time, it is also necessary for other people to be able to do something and not to be envious when the opposite has achieved something more, which one has not yet achieved. If the opposite is nice to one, you have no reason to treat the opposite of shit from nothing. You can suck the former mobber or people who treat shit to them. But if someone treats you well, you have no reason to act like that. Or cannot really respect the boundaries of the opposite, just because the boundaries were ignored or exceeded by one at the time in childhood.
If, for example, the counterpart says that this and this border has no matter how large or small this border is. You have to be able to respect this limit. But then it is called by (“but you have too many limits”). Or if the phone has no time for a spontaneous call and you have said yourself(” we can call when you have time.”) The opposite says that the opposite has no time and still has to prepare to finish for the bed, because tomorrow also work is over.
It is therefore childishly crowded and laid up without saying anything instead only(” all good “) but says again after three days at the opposite. This is also childish and manipulative.
With (man) I meant, formerly bullied. So as this former bullied himself now is not good. Approximately 15 years ago this was pampered. And now having these character traits isn’t fair or fair if you’re good to good characters. You can’t be shit until you treat someone shit again.
Yeah, I know what you mean. But most process this relatively fast, only depends on how much evil in others looks at how much one has been bullied.
Just when it’s not long ago, you can only see evil in others, as a defense mechanism, so that something like that does not repeat itself. The fact that people are not treated fair is usually clear to people, but fear can be very big and even the lightest approach (even if it was only misunderstood) can regain all memories and thus trigger fear, so to speak
Yeah, that’s pretty much coming, honestly, my ego is a bit eaten but it’s true and I’m glad I could help
Now I get it. Just when you look at this on the psychological level, clearly psychology is complicated but actually in the case that I didn’t get on it earlier. Right, you can count one and one. It makes all sense what you said here. Thank you for the detailed explanations. Whether you have understanding or empathy and you can understand it is another thing. Depends individually from human to human. But from theory, everything makes sense. Of course, it’s not fair that you can’t give other people that and look forward to others when the other has reached more than yourself. But this is probably because this former did not know and think otherwise, okay other people can’t do anything about it, so you don’t like other people, and you don’t need to pay attention as well as gracious confirmation and is constantly self-centric, you have to run on their nose. Probably to regain control, which at that time could not have been on the past and at that time had been powerless and also no attention was drawn only down subordinated as outsiders stood there stupid and therefore today has so much to confirm and probably therefore toxic traits. This is probably survival mode/self-protection.
Probably, as a child, this person was pushed to the side by other children because it was too elite and at the same time weeping.
Yes, everyone processes mental harm differently, has been affected and knows others. (Sorry too tired to despair)