Ist Weihnachten bei Euch ein harmonisches Familienfest oder gibt es oft Streit? Was würdet Ihr jemandem raten, dem eher “schwierige” Weihnachten bevorstehen?
Da die Welt und wir Menschen nicht perfekt sind, ist natürlich auch das Weihnachtsfest nicht immer “heile Welt”.
Was würdet Ihr jemandem raten, dem dieses Jahr “schwierige” Weihnachten bevorstehen?
Habt Ihr eventuell selbst Erfahrungen mit Weihnachtsfesten in komplizierten Familienverhältnissen bzw. mit streitlustigen Verwandten?
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I’m the Grinch. I have no energy for festivities. Buying presents is a nightmare. To drive to my family, I need a train of 10 to 13 hours, depending on the number of delays and eigtl you can always expect 3-4 h delay before Christmas. So it’s a real torment with the train. I’m not going home this year to my family. I don’t have my own family yet. I am very happy and grateful that in these very few days it will be quieter in Germany, authorities have closed, mostly no invoices come and I can just relax once. Unfortunately, this time is only short anyway and I really need this time for me. If I had a family of my own, that would be different. I would then prepare everything and Christmas with possibly. Man and especially child celebrate. But this is not given.
This is quite harmonious with us. But not with our neighbors. Already at the beginning of the Advent season, the loud fights, which increase more and more against Christmas, accumulate with the residents next door. Perhaps it has to do with wishing warmth, common time, harmony, etc. during the dark winter days, but the ideas of the participants about how pronounced this should be are far apart. According to my findings, it often seems to come from the woman who puts unrealistic wishes to her partner. The partner who works extremely much as a small entrepreneur is hardly ever at home, and when he is home, the pussies fly. The partner is very temperamental; although a native of here (and not about a southern country), as soon as the woman begins to “anzupissen” for small things (sorry for the word choice), then the one starts out that it is no longer beautiful. Then 1-2 days before Christmas in the Staacato words like “Du Ar***loch!”, which are heard to me. One time, the woman probably threw a book frame (or something similar to big and heavy) on the floor during the dispute and then you heard the man shouting loudly “Look at the mess you did!” The teenage daughter in turn puts seemingly undamaged claims on gifts to her mother. The mother responds to this emotionally and partially breaks out like a volcano. At the end, she often cries around in the apartment and stamps like a small child on the floor demonstratively every step. Once I had learned from the mother at the Smalltalk that the daughter (14) had wished for a holiday to two with her 15-year-old friend on the Maldives, because that was supposed to have been paid by the parents in the school class. There was a three-day loudly strong drama. At the end of the disputes one often hears a giant cry from all corners, followed by wines and canyons, and ignoring the banging of doors, then it will be quiet for a while before it starts again after 15-20 minutes, even if less energetic. After Christmas time, the haunt has disappeared as at once and it seems to be calm again (with separate exceptions).
How can you do that much writer??
Fortunately, my parents are always peaceful. If we are with my grandparents on the holidays, unfortunately, the more out of the street has come to fight, but it has been better in recent years. It is best not to address themes on Christmas, where you already know that different views are shared (maybe). So, for example, political issues do not belong to me at all, if one of the topics is going out, you can make a bit of music or something, you don’t have to talk through. It’s better to discuss this everyday. And if you realize that there is someone who is struggling, it is best not to go into it, there are always 2 of them…you don’t always have to fight, you can even keep silent or change the subject directly. You often deny enough, at least to christmas, you should take back and not miss the mood 🙂
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So actually, it’s a harmonious family festival…
But in preparation (or decorate tree) my father is always very irritated… Then there are often disputes… But in itself it is a beautiful and harmonious family festival!
We have no tree not because we are poor but my little brothers will destroy it
Do what makes you happy!
If you have people around you who love you as you are, the better. If not, look for like-minded, and make new experiences and/or acquaintances.
And it doesn’t matter if family is harmonic or not. It is your decision whether you prefer to push frustration or to spend happy holidays.
I chose the latter, even if that means that a part of the family will not attend. Time is simply too precious to splice them with people who are not comfortable or do not accept one as you are.
Rather harmonious. We’re celebrating this in a small circle. On the Christmas holidays, although other relatives come together, I always try that the subject of “policy” is not addressed. This is most likely leading to louder conversations.
With me, Christmas was always very harmonious. Only from the children there were occasional criticisms of the not very suitable gifts. That was very limited.
I spend Christmas alone – for several years and I don’t think it’s bad.
well – the family remains live almost 1,000 kilometers far away and I have to work anyway.
people who have difficulties with family celebrations should simply be prepared. simply don’t make a bad sense if others are pict from the family.
What would you advise someone who “smooth” Christmas this year?
Try to make the best of it and stay out of it. If you’re old enough, you can set up contact with these people. You can’t choose the first family. You are responsible for everything else. Everyone is forging his luck. Not in all matters, but if you don’t care about the reaction of these people, you just can’t go.
Do you have any experiences with Christmas parties in complicated family conditions or with conflicting relatives?
Yeah, and I don’t see her around Christmas. Maximum 2 times a year for a weekend.
I advise everyone to simply enjoy themselves at home instead of being surrounded by nerve saws.
Then every holiday is really to celebrate.
I have been staying away from such customs as Christmas with the family since childhood because my family only has genetics with me. And if you only see at Christmas “because the last tradition is” you can also leave it completely with contact.
And argue… it’s not worth it anyway. Especially with people you know all the life.
I personally enjoy my time alone with God. No stress, no dispute, no problem whatever.
And if I need problems, I can find a lot of things here on GF as a mod. 😏
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alone with God.
more with Karel God
That’s what I would have written if I meant that. 😉
The beauty of friends compared to family is that you can choose your friends.
Blood may well be thicker than water, but evil blood remains evil blood.
I’m sure I don’t want to advise anyone about any contact breaks, but as my old chef said, “Sometimes you have to separate yourself from things.”
To date, there are many people who think that a cinema or restaurant visit would be quite, very strange.
I’d rather say: It’s strange if a person can’t watch a good movie alone. Or has too little self-confidence to do what gives him pleasure on his own.
Even with actually harmless words, it happens that someone is getting louder and louder. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a disputed conversation so that I feel that this is disturbing. There are also differences of opinion, but if like-minded people find themselves, who then shame unisono, I don’t think it better.
In such cases, there is often enough evidence and the request to speak quieter. The attention of the celebrations can also be directed by a program point on them, for example singing Christmas songs or playing a game. Unfortunately, not everyone does. But maybe there’s something to focus on it.
With us, Christmas is always a harmonious festival. People who have stress in the family or have a not so harmonious feast should come together and talk about it. It should not be about family conditions or trouble, especially just about a common Christmas, where you forget about all worries and every effort to make the other joy…
Last year I made a clear statement to the family:
We can fight for 364 days a year. But I want to have a rest at Christmas. Whoever doesn’t hold on to it flies out.
From neurotic, self-manic people, who are not holy, I’ve had to screw up the feast long enough. This is definitely over. 😈
Christmas is a profound festival with family and friends. There is tasty eaten, much chilled and much played.
I’d advise someone to face the “difficult” festive days to check if he actually has to do it or he doesn’t have better alternatives…
With us it is actually a very harmonious festival. The rest of the year is there to fight. Since we do not give each other anything, there is no pre-programmed dispute. Only in the decoration is there always some criticism. Too straight, too wrong, too little, too much, too colorful, too monochrome.u.s.w.
Nice holidays.
I’ve been celebrating since approx. 15 years no longer with my family of origin, because I haven’t lived in Germany since then and the different long journeys for a few Christmas days were/are too expensive. However, I miss my entire family and telephone extensively with the parents and families of my brothers on the 24th from the noon.
I have my own little family that we’re celebrating with. Only with man and 2 small children can there not be much disharmony. Spaeter in the evening we are invited as a “little laughter” with nice neighbors. This has become a tradition: in one year they come to us, in the next year we go to them….This has always been a fun round.
Since I can’t endure the fight, I would advise anyone who expects the regular holidays: not visit, but stay at home or even drive away. If a visit is not to be avoided: just stay as short as possible.
Our Christmas festivals are always somewhat harmonious.
What I would advise people in difficult situations: you do not look for what family you are born in. You can choose who you spend time with. If it is to be assumed that it becomes “too complicated”, “too disharmonic”, “too denial” or otherwise too unpleasant, it may not be necessary to do so. That may not be so easy for minors. Should the mood at home be so tense, they should contact a trustee.
In my world, Christmas is a harmonious feast that is characterized by love, joy and cohesion. The families come together to share cheerful moments, to join each other and enjoy festive meals together. All members of the family are concerned to understand and respectfully deal with each other.
For someone who prefers to be “difficult” Christmas, I could give the advice to come to rest first and rethink their own attitude. We can often control our responses and expectations in difficult situations. If we let go and look with loving compassion at the problems of other people, we may discover the potential to resolve conflicts and create harmony.
Furthermore, it is important to openly communicate and try to address problems before escalating them to major disputes. An honest and respectful willingness to talk can help clear out misunderstandings and get a common understanding.
In addition, small gestures of love and appreciation can increase the well-being of the family during holidays. For example, you could try to be consciously friendly and generous, to maintain common traditions or actively seek ways to improve the atmosphere.
Ultimately, the willingness to forgive and let go plays a decisive role. Christmas is a time of peace and connection, and sometimes we have to reset our own needs to create harmony in the family. It is important to remember that every person has his own struggles and may have to fight with his own fears and concerns.
With these advice, I hope that someone who is coming to the “difficult” Christmas will have the opportunity to experience the festival in harmony and joy and make the best of the situation.
I have the unfortunate happiness of being able to spend the three Christmas days harmoniously and relaxed with my family.
And from my own experience I know that this is absolutely not a matter of course.
To this extent, for all those out there, who are just greying before the holy feast: take it as it is, stuff your expectations into the bottom corner and make the best of it, despite everything that gives you life.
The “slate” condition is 360 days a year. It doesn’t change on Christmas. No one falls into a pot of bliss for Christmas (if he was an A*** before). Also a feast does not change the circumstances. On the contrary, this whole fluffy savory of love, joy, egg cake makes the situation even more difficult. For everyone.
Be aware that there are many, many others as you are. They just don’t appeal, full eaten in the circles of the dear family sink into romance and glitter. Say goodbye to this enlightened image and this expectation that it must be or even. It’s not.
I have experienced many, many psychologically cruel (not as far as people are concerned, but the fates that have happened to my family) or lonely Christmas.
The horror of my then school friend was the Christmas Eve. Because then the Daddy did not sit in the inn (because closed) but at home at the table and Mutti often enough on the 1st. Christmas day with a blue eye.
I recommend – apart from consumption, gifts and pleasure – to remember the origins of the Christmas festival: God came to the world as a vulnerable child, to offer every single person the greatest gift that one can imagine: God’s love, his unconditional forgiveness and life in abundance – here and today AND in eternity, so in the timeless dimension that we can hardly imagine.
I know there are doubts, mistrust, unbelief. This is quite normal and comprehensible. Many do not know the words and the work of the Messiah (Christ) Jesus. I am so impressed by these that I can only explain them to me with the existence of divine wisdom.
Christmas – the “Feast of Love”, yes! It is certainly also days of loneliness and sadness for many people. I wish everyone a reflection on how much each person, even you, is loved by God.
If you have time and curiosity, read a little in the New Testament and find out who Jesus Christ is completely personal for YOU! I think you’ll be amazed. Perhaps you will also see in him what many people have already recognized before you.
Merry Christmas!
There are also people who doubt the authority of the New Testament as the title of tradition and proclamation and analogously the meaning of Christmas, because the sermons of the praised Messiah were interpreted by historical individual influencers in such a way that a large part of the laws and rituals previously sent down by God and confirmed by Messiah (in some cases). How do you see that?
Jeremiah, a prophet of God, announced ca. 700 years before the birth of the Messiah a new covenant of God with his people.
Jesus speaks this new covenant (the New Testament) on the eve of his crucifixion and says that his blood would be shed for this new covenant.
Jesus said elsewhere, “I did not come to lift the law [of the Old Testament], but to fulfill it.” Understanding this is a challenge. I have been thinking for some time until I have understood that the law of the Old Covenant, given to Moses for God’s chosen people in a competing, hostile and hate- worshipped environment, has now been given to the hands of unique features and rules of survival by inwardly and outwardly directed behavior, since the Messiah, through his act of redemption, would receive the attention of all humanity, fulfilling its purpose.
Whoever listens to Jesus recognizes the divine truth in his words and his work also understands his divine identity. With this divine authority, he changes people from within: a deep understanding of God’s love, which leads to a new, better and freed life. Exterior laws and forced rituals lose all meaning.
Of course, all societies and peoples have changed – yes, even the whole world.
I don’t have any experience with a fight that day.
Disputable relationship I would either sort out or miss a muzzle 😎
🧸🧸🧸🧸🧸🧸🧸🧸Bääääären – strong
No, it’s not, there’s no dispute, just a loss… my daughter
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I give you a silent hug and a lot of strength 🎄💓
Thank you
It is quite harmonic, but sometimes there is a fight. I would advise someone who wants to have a difficult Christmas to find a suitable solution or alternative.
You have no idea
What did I hear? I think you have no idea.
Think…then you can report
Thanks Marie…
There are people who miss a person
I don’t know family disputes for Christmas.
Therefore, I feel surreal when it is said again and again that especially at Christmas time there is a lot of dispute and some even separate.
Good evening together. With us it is harmonious and cheerful. It is best to avoid topics that would trigger any dispute and would like to address positive things
Jan
How, when someone suffers in the family, should he look for another environment for Christmas because all others want to be harmonious and happy?
Thank you. However, you can safely dispense with such a family on all days of the year 😶
That wasn’t related to the family. I didn’t say anything. It was about friends or something. You want to be happy at Christmas, don’t you? There’s no need for a Miesepet. That’s why you prefer to distance yourself from such people and look for someone with whom you can celebrate happier
I’m sorry. I just made myself very incomprehensible.
Merry Christmas 🎄 I wish you and a happy new year 2024
Well, friends who only count me with a happy face to their friends and want to spend Christmas with me, if I’m happy, I don’t need the rest of the year!
So I got you right!
Please put yourself in a person who has no good time at all. Should they spend the holidays without familiar persons?
And what if exactly you were this one person and your family or your friends wouldn’t like your sadness and current instincts?
My whole family and I are big Christmas fans. That’s why I usually work on New Year’s Eve. In the acquaintance circle, I know at least one case where it actually escalated. Some relatives didn’t talk to each other for almost a year.
Have had good experiences with simply not putting expectations too high on these days. For if one seeks perfectionism, it can become quite exhausting and the danger is great that disputes arise. It works fine with us. This is exactly what makes Christmas “perfect”.
Wish you and all here happy Christmas. LG. Lisa🎄🌟
Spending Christmas alone is the best option!
There should be more advertising for it, so that it is not always put down as disgusting by others!
Here’s what it is
I’m single and I’m just coming together with my closest relatives on Christmas Eve. That’s enough.
On the two holidays I have “free” and listen to Christmas songs on the radio, watch Christmas shows on TV and read Christmas comments on the Internet.
Thumb high!!! That’s it.
I don’t think so. We people look forward to good experiences together with other people. Loneliness – although unfortunately not always avoidable – does not fit well with our “DNA”.
With some tolerance, openness and humour, you could try to build bridges to others who do not like to celebrate alone.
You don’t have to.
But at Christmas so to make a bohei and to almost sue everyone who is lonely and ignore the loneliness on the remaining 364 days, is not ok either.
Yes in any case, but you can’t force others. Or pretend they’re stupid because they’re alone for Christmas now
Perhaps, but is a free country, where everyone can be “happy” in its kind. If you like, read my answer – exactly!
Since I’m always alone for Christmas and New Year’s, I don’t have any stress.
I’m very happy about that.
We never have a fight at Christmas. Absolutely nothing big. Last year I was a little disappointed as I didn’t get anything from my wish list. The wishes were not deviant. For example, I wanted a Gregs diary. I still haven’t. But of course, I do not say that to my family, because it is very hard and I am of course happy about the gifts that are not on my wish list.
🙂
For us, Christmas is a harmonious family festival where we see our children and grandchildren, laugh and joke, eat well, exchange gifts and spend a time.
We wouldn’t invite Miesepeter. We only celebrate with people we like. There are people in our family that we would never invite.
If it really came to a fight, we’d advise him to go home. We wouldn’t let anyone forget the feast.
It has always been harmonious with us. In my family of origin, on the other hand, it was different… I have tried to be diplomatic and to find compromises with which the parties were satisfied. It wasn’t about me…
It was also helpful to invite someone alone from the circle of friends. If someone’s in there who doesn’t belong to the family, they’re all gonna tear together.
Earlier than the family was still together, there was never a fight and it was always very contemplative and cordial.
So I know this isn’t the best way but I know this problem, talking about rarely what is it that everyone fights with each or more you have plans or something and that’s why it’s chopped on the rum, so if that’s more like that all over then try to address themes where you know they’re going to get good, but it’s more often that they’ve been hacking out on you then against just z.b in
There’s no dispute. I’ll take the family in law until I finally get to my family and then on the way back, friends will be visited and recovered from Christmas in the days after that.
We’re two, there’s no Christmas stress. Gifts used to make a lot of pressure and stress in the family, even small zigzags.
This falls flat, we spend cozy holidays to two and are glad that we are not exposed to the Christmas deer, which is spreading everywhere.
I wish you both wonderfully relaxing and loving holidays 🎄
Cheese 👋😊 & Greetings
Hey, that’s nice of you, you and your loved ones too great, cozy holidays. Love greetings
Exactly s o we handle it too….
And this is totally relaxing
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Love Christmas greetings🌲
please, 🍀
Thank you
Just be at home with the most important. So, for example, I’m with my brother and my parents. Nobody comes to us for Christmas.
But I enjoy the time when I am alone
LG
Sadene
Harmonic, clear. Harmonic, cheerful. Will only celebrate more with a friend in the future, but as harmonious, happy. Gifts, money on the side, decoration in the room. Sweet wine and other sweets. Everyone should celebrate his feast as he wants.
But for me, this is a feast where one celebrates one’s own prosperity and therefore I like to celebrate it.
With us it is always beautifully harmonious. We don’t argue, we all like ourselves very much and other family members with whom you don’t understand, live far away. If you can avoid celebrating with family members who cannot stand out, I think you should do that. No one is forced to celebrate with others just because Christmas is.
While Christmas is often harmonious, occasional challenges can arise. For those facing a difficult Christmas, my advice is to focus on shared moments of joy, set realistic expectations, and consider creating new tradition to foster positive vibes. Embracing imperfections and finding joy in small moments can make the holiday special despite complexities.
If everything would run smoothly at Christmas time (word game haha (no, as there is never bald ice at Christmas)), then it would be very uninhabited;)