Is my roommate having panic attacks because of me?

Question

Hello, we are in a nursing home and one of our roommates was recently admitted because of heart pain and panic attacks, but the panic attacks did not return while she was there and away from the home.

Her boyfriend says it only happens when he wants to leave again and he doesn't know if she does it on purpose or if there's something wrong, but oh well…

We discussed for a few weeks, and then I distanced myself because I noticed things about her, like gossiping about people she actually likes, and so on.

However, we've been in contact again since today, and then she texted me saying she was having another panic attack. I find it very strange, considering I've always heard that she hasn't had one since then, and suddenly she's back today.

It sounds crazy but I ask and blame myself for being toxic to her and for causing her to have panic attacks.

I don't know why either, but could that be?

statuspost · Answer

As an ex borderline, I guess that's where I'll trigger your own near distance problems.

Generally, I advise you to delimit yourself from people who do not do well – you are not responsible for their lives.

n008tsecr3taira · Answer

As far as I know, Borderline can't heal so much, or did I get something wrong? (Not evil meant my curiosity is awakened

statuspost · Answer

Because many therapists simply don't know enough and have experience with such a hardcore diagnosis and 2. Because it costs a lot of money – and it's more convenient to say "unfortunately healable" than "no one takes the cost for it … "

Here you will find all my way to cure borderline

http://www.statuspost.at/borderlineheilbar/

n008tsecr3taira · Answer

Yes, madam!

I have often had the feeling that the borderline can be cured very well, even if these impulses come to an insurmountable effect.

Only then did I stop this feeling more often, just because as you say so often it doesn't work.

The Borderline is so complex, the thing for many probably makes it quite "incurable"

statuspost · Answer

yes complex and long-term ... there are often lacking financial resources _ and it is easier to say "BL is not curable" _ as "the health insurance does not pay."