Is he a nerd?
My brother is a nerd, at least I think so, but I have to change that somehow.
He was always quite smart, but at the same time very open, self-confident, and popular. He was a bit of a role model for me.
But since he became extremely addicted to computers, everything has changed. He's been addicted since he was about 10, and now he's very unhygienic, eats little, has no hobbies other than gaming, and he only talks about typical nerd stuff.
He has one boyfriend and when he goes out (maybe once a week) they just go for a walk, which is so random. My mom buys all his clothes so they look shit but he doesn't care what he wears. He has so much potential to be successful but he doesn't care about school and just wants to be a cashier or something because, according to him, he just wants to earn a bit of money and keep gaming. He's currently doing his Abitur. He himself said that gaming is his only interest in life. Whenever we went on vacation, he honestly spent almost the entire time in his hotel room gaming. It's not normal anymore. You can't have a normal conversation with the boy anymore and there are a lot of other behaviors that are even more worrying than all of this. My brother is super smart and funny etc. but he's ruining his entire future with this. I don't know if he's a nerd or if even nerds behave like that but it really can't go on like this. Please give me some advice or something to help. The whole situation is really stressing my mom out, too. 🙁 He's 18 now, by the way.
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If he’s doing the Abitur, I don’t see a problem, it would be a problem if he had stopped the school and just sit at home.
Since your brother is 18 years old, it is difficult to set any requirements, maybe something with the throw it out to the common household if he does not contribute or pays. That’s what you can expect.
(even if the many people here don’t fit!)
Yes, but he does nix for the school and, finally, wants only cashiers at Rewe will it just doesn’t matter to him. Previously, he wanted to work at the bank and so and because of his addiction, his career is no longer interested in him.
If he closes the Abitur well, then the professional world is open to him, whether he becomes a cashier for the first time is no matter, he can still continue to develop elsewhere afterwards.
You obviously want good for your brother, but this sounds quite aggressive, after all it’s his life and his choice as he does.
He’ll see that when he’s a cashier, maybe he’ll get his eyes open and he’ll try another job.
How he spends his spare time is his thing, but I think it’s time that he’s just shocking every day.
Yeah, well, maybe I can see it too dramatic. I’m just scared he’ll be completely unhappy and spend all his spare time like now, in front of the computer. I’m probably exaggerating
Sounds normal at age… If he just withdraws and likes to be alone, that’ll probably come out.