I weigh 150kg at 16?
I'm 16. I now weigh around 150 kg and am about 1.70 cm tall… I don't know what to do anymore. I've gained a lot of weight since my father died and I know that I can't go on like this. I was never completely thin, but I was of a normal weight, always at the upper limit, but still. When he died, out of grief and frustration, I started eating more and more, I started going out less and spending more time at home. At first it was manageable, but over time it got worse. My mother tried to forbid me from eating, but then I would get it in secret and that didn't help either. At some point she just let up. I gained more and more weight, was always inside and lost my friends. I never really had many, but the fatter I got, the more everyone distanced myself from me and I started skipping school. I haven't been to school for a year now and the youth welfare office is putting pressure on me. I've been diagnosed with school anxiety but they're still harassing me. I don't dare go there anymore and I'd rather never go out again. I hardly go out anymore and spend the whole day in my room eating. Food has been the only thing that distracts me the whole time. I can't live without it. It's not just that I'm extremely hungry and can hardly feel full, I usually get extremely full at some point but I still can't stop eating. My stomach hurts so much a lot but I just can't.
To be clear, that's all I ate yesterday alone.
For breakfast, I first cut up a pretzel roll from the bakery and put butter and jam on it, then a croissant (also from the bakery) and spread Milky Way Duo cream on that. Then I had a small Berliner filled with jam, also from the bakery. I drank a Müllermilch vanilla with it. An hour later, I was very hungry again and made myself a large bowl of Lion cornflakes with low-fat milk, drank another cup of multivitamin juice and an Actimel. Then for lunch, I ate two apples, a pear, and a KitKat. After that, I heated up two JA cheeseburgers in the microwave and put an extra slice of cheese, mayo, and ketchup on top. I drank water while I did so. After that, I cut up a pretzel stick from the bakery and topped it with cream cheese, salami, and cheese. About two hours later I ate 250g of cocktail tomatoes and spooned a little bit of the Milky Way Duo cream, but not that much. Then in the evening I made myself a frozen salami pizza with a cheese crust and ate the whole thing, then I ate a pack of Green Ear Bunnies from Katjes, half a bar of Oreo chocolate from Milka, a couple of handfuls of Sour Cream Pringles, 2 Douplo White and a few dried banana chips. I drank 2 cups of cocoa and a glass of Coke Zero. Just before going to bed I had a tea with honey and raspberries and 2 muffins with Smarties from the supermarket. Then I woke up again in the middle of the night and ate a couple of rolls of sushi with salmon and avocado with soy sauce. I only drank water and then fell asleep again.
I want to change something, but I don't know how. I want to lose weight and finally be happier again, but I'm afraid it's too late. I feel disgusting and worthless. What should I do? I want my life back. I need help.
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Where do you get all the sugared garbage? Cook fresh and radical sugar withdrawal would certainly be first steps you should take.
Your eating behavior is extreme and the foods you eat in the pure are at most bad. Why don’t you eat healthy things, why does it have to be finished and sugar without end? Hunger can also be stopped with self-cooked food.
Have you ever been to the doctor? Do you have diabetes?
You eat dead and you know that. Remember what this means to people who will lose you according to your father.
So a nutritional advice, or Reha and therapeutic help for your psychic problems should be steps you do best immediately.
Either my mother buys it for me or even very rarely but I go to the supermarket or to the baker myself. My mother himself cooks very rarely and if, either only for himself or in such small portions that I simply won’t get tired of it. It usually also eats things from the microwave or TK.
I know they’re not healthy, but I can’t stop eating them. I like fruits and vegetables, but in the end I always get more hot.
At least I don’t think I have diabetes.
If I die, I don’t care. Not even my mother, that’s the thing..
Your hunger may be a hint for insulin resistance or even diabetes, therefore the question.
If you die, it wouldn’t matter that your father died. But your view is another sign of how urgent you need therapy.
I don’t think you’ll get out of this alone without professional help.
And it’s a pity that your mother lets you stay so sick.
If you help yourself and lose weight you will see in a few years how beautiful life can be again.
I’m pressing your thumbs.
I’ve tried to take my life, my mother hasn’t even looked after me. I don’t have friends, so what else? I have a massive alcohol problem and my mother is also the one who buys it. Even after I tried several times, I was overdosed.
I really want to lose weight, but it’s so hard.. But it’s just not that way.
Thank you.
You definitely need psychological support.
Not only because of your school fear, but also in terms of mourning.
Your Binge Eating is a symptom of swallowing the sadness of your father’s loss with extreme eating.
You don’t give the feeling of sadness the smallest chance.
Food ban does not help.
Like you already wrote.
The Youth Office makes it even worse with its pressure – here it seems to work as an extended arm of the school.
Often it is that youth offices see child welfare only in the “visit not the school”. But not in the “child / teenager it is particularly bad at school”.
You and your mother – you both need professional help in grief management.
Please go to the doctor’s office and give you therapeutic support for the grief management. Whether it’s the pastor or someone else.
Your cravings are comprehensible and I find the quantities even more acceptable, but what you feed is the most unhealthy thing. You should change that. Make ham noodles, risotto rice or even a self-mixed banana milk and leave the over-sugared ready-to-use.
Unfortunately, I can’t cook at all and if I’m hungry, I usually get the fastest option. Just like noodles, rice and so I eat, I’m still from an Asian household, however, it’s usually ready meals for the microwave. I often eat noodles, but then very large amounts with all like sauce, cheese .. I wouldn’t even know Spontan how to make banana milk at all if I drink them only milk
For this you need an electric stand mixer (approximately 50 € I guess). You take 3 bananas, break them into pieces and throw them into the mixer. Then you fill so much milk that the pieces are just covered; no more! Then turn the mixer on the lowest level. Let him go for one to two minutes. Then you wait about half a minute so that any remaining pieces will be deposited on the ground. Then turn on the mixer for about one to two minutes.
And ready is the delicious banana milk!
You will never drink milk again!
Thank you, we don’t have a mixer but I’ll remember
I am not a psychologist, but I suspect that you want to close the gap that has left your father’s death with your eating behavior, among other things. Please go to a doctor, maybe a therapy would be helpful.
I strongly recommend psychological help, since the following symptoms are evident from you:
The last three points could also indicate a depressive disease. Such a thing can be handled quite effectively in the media.
Please fight! It’s not too late! Go to (house)Arzt and let you know what to do.
Try to work on your mindset.
With all unhealthy shit – tell yourself that it’s a relief if you don’t eat it.
Be aware of what you’re gonna do for a waste in you, every bite
It’s a slow process, but stay on
Talk to your mother, tell her you don’t want to do this anymore, and it’s not supposed to be a crap anymore.
Have a deadline:
e.g. on 01.01. a new life begins
From then on you eat healthy and do sports
Until then, you have enough time to make yourself smart in the net, WAS is a healthy diet and what sport comes into question for you.
Have a fixed appointment for sport – a bit every day
I haven’t read the whole text. You’re still very young, you have all your life. Go to your family doctor, a boat camp with sports would certainly help you. Nutrition consultation included. You meet like-minded. When you change your life now, you’ll be normal in about three years and only 19 years old. And please, go back to school.
I also see that goes only with radical steps
Not radical, step by step. And with sport among like-minded (never laughing at him), he beats three flies with one flap. Feels better, burns calories and spends time away from food)
The problem is, if the cause of this eating behavior is not changed, your proposals should not last long.
The FS doesn’t get over because it’s fun, it’s because it’s got strong grief.
Unfortunately, it is really hard with school ..
Don’t ruin your life.
No, you’re 16 years old. Everything’s open. It’s up to you.
My life is pretty ruined?
What have you got?
Didn’t I?
At 16 years, that’s definitely not too late. There’s everything in there. If you can’t do it on your own and you tell yourself you need help, then get it. Trust your mother and look for solutions. To ban food is not a solution. You need medical and maybe psychological help to get back in the lead.
I tried to talk to her about it, but she thinks she’s lost hope of me..
Better. Without constant pressure and rum stools it is much easier
You urgently need a take-off – with psychosomatic accompaniment!
There you will be able to work up your grief – you will learn to feed you healthy and balanced.
If the soul “mitisst”, you need – professional – help…
Please talk to your family doctor (together with your mother) – he will lead everything necessary into the way.
I wish you all the best!
Thank you.
You’re welcome.
No, a DAUERHAFTE diet replacement
That’s exactly what you learn!!
Then your wording was probably reason for misunderstanding and I agree with you
You got some great answers here to help you.
What does not help you is your diet. You just explained that. It’s time to change the switch here.
And you can do this, you just really need to. And give up the short compensation in the form of Junk Food. It is important that the stuff is from your reach, not at all in the house. And if you want to walk to the baker, drink 2 glasses of water and wait 10 minutes.
Let’s show you what your mother can cook well. And prepare it yourself in the future. Cooking makes fun when the final result tastes. Let others show you what they like to cook. Find out about healthy nutrition on the net.
The first successes will inspire you!
Yes, my whole room is full of candy and the fridge also, in front of all finished dishes.. I even have a microwave in the room, that doesn’t make it easier.
That thing is stop, my mother cooks as well as never. My father was also the one who always cooked fresh for us, that is missing..
Thank you.
Get the stuff out of here.
There’s nothing to look for in your room, get it out. Today. All in the basement or in the ton.
Do you want to change something or NOT?
Promise this with your family doctor.
He might advise on therapy in conjunction with a dietologist.
You know you’re too fat, you’re careful not to mention everything you feed and you want to change…
So, if that’s true, just eat yourself: FDH!
Let the doctor advise you, move a lot, bicycle, running, stairs instead of elevator…
Water instead of Limo Cola Energy Drinks…
Insert parts for your food, or locate the portion sizes on the packs, not always empty whole packs.
Take something out to eat and rooms the pack with the rest again and don’t pick up the same day…
…and, of course, not eating 3 half packages instead of a whole…
Feed consciously, more vegetables, more ballasts, less junk, less sugar, less white flour…
And: great success!
It’s not that easy.
Of course not…
But shaken doesn’t help him/her, does it?
These are the facts, further pure stuffing is not the solution, change is wanted, so that would be a few approaches…
The problem is, once I start eating, I can’t stop. Whether I’m tired or not, it doesn’t work. :/
Exactly therefore the tip, before you start, (d)a portion conscious before to take the rest away completely…
You can then eat the portion completely…
… segregation very consciously set it up and eat it…
… don’t start feeding with this one, but only when you get back clean up…
This is at the beginning a habit, but then becomes a habit…
…and you can also differentiate according to food: potato chips only hold a handful, really only ne normal handful or only as much as on the pack as a Portion standing…
From what we say, carrots or barcelain, you can climb kilos…
…;o)
I mean go/spaze/per pedes instead, do not run;o)
No, don’t run. This goes to the joints in weight.
Ah, you mean out of the comfort zone…
“Let the doctor advise you, move a lot, bike, running, stairs instead of elevatorYou’ve read, haven’t you?
Get out of home, not to live elsewhere, but to do something.
If this is for him/her, why not…
If not, 16 “out of home” is not so easy…
…but ultimately, @stern must tell himself if/what helps him…
That’s the wrong approach. He (or she) has to get out of the vicious circle. The more he/she concentrates on eating (less), the less it works. The thoughts must be in a different direction. That’s why I proposed Bootcamp with sports and nutritional advice. Feeling body, getting tired, getting out of home, getting to know like-minded people….
Please go to the doctor